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So called friend deleted and blocked me

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Tursl · 19/01/2024 20:54

I used to go to a film club and made friends with the members.

I was friends with the group organiser but we lost touch over the pandemic and I have had health issues and a bereavement.

I did avoid him at times as he was always paranoid and would try and make me feel bad. He would try and be suggestive and I shut him down as I am not interested. He did this even recently when he had a girlfriend.

Tonight he messaged me and said:

Him: Are we friends?

Me: Why do you ask?

Him: We dont interact. Your not interested in me as a person. I don't want people on my Facebook or Social media who aren't. I thought id ask you personally as we used to be close.

I sent this message then he deleted me off Facebook and blocked me on Messenger before allowing me to explain.

Me: That's harsh. When you feel bad you don't want to see people and burden people with your problems. When are you next out?

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What is wrong with people. Because you don't message them all the time and like their posts means you are not friends? I rarely do social media. I have told him before I have health issues and went through a bereavement but he isn't bothered. I prefer to catch up in person but he isn't interested in my reasons. Wish I never responded now. A good friend of mine has never liked him and he deleted her.

Looking back he has always had mental issues. He had a drink problem and smashed a light shade and bulb at his Halloween party in anger which I saw. His fiancee at the time was a mug and was clearing up his mess. She dumped him after 2 years of marriage.

I have witnessed him have bust ups with 2 people, one he got angry and shouted and pointed in his face. They had done nothing wrong, he was paranoid.

He has had fallouts with others. He is always nasty to another friend of mine he fancies. where they fall out then make up. I realise why he created his own film social group, who wants to be friends with him.

I left his film group and deleted his number. Why do people have to be so nasty?

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RowanMayfair · 19/01/2024 20:55

Why do you care how he behaves? He's nasty because he's a nasty person with some emotional issues. You're better off without some aggressive guy who keeps trying to shag you!

AgingDisgracefullyHere · 19/01/2024 20:56

He sounds unstable and he is over sensitive. It does sound like you're not very keen on him. And that's OK.

Don't let it bother you.

whiteshutters · 19/01/2024 20:57
  1. Why do you care if you never liked him?
  2. Maybe he thought the YOU referred to him?
harerunner · 19/01/2024 20:59

Sounds like he did you a favour. He sounds awful, and not someone I'd want to be friends with at all, even very casually!

Jumbojem · 19/01/2024 21:01

To be honest, it doesn't sound like you were actually friends, you don't like him. He asked if you were friends as he only wanted friends on his SM. Yout response as posted didn't really answer his question, you just mentioned your bereavement and health.
I'm not sure I'd describe his deleting you as nasty. You aren't friends anyone even if you once were. Pointless to dwell on it.

harerunner · 19/01/2024 21:01

And he seems to have a lot of friends given his repulsive personality... 🤷

OldBeyondMyYears · 19/01/2024 21:04

Why are you bothered???

Tursl · 20/01/2024 13:37

I told a mutual friend who said he had mentioned he was having a cull by our mutual friend is disgusted at the way I have been treated. I just wantes to make sure people heard the truth from me as the nasty ex friend goes out of his way to make the person he fell out with look bad.

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