My wife and I have been having relationship problems for a little while but we're trying to give it a go.
Yesterday my wife went to an event all day which involved a lot of drink but essentially a family party.
I finished work early and went to meet her in a bid to support her and be with her.
This is where I initially noticed what I felt to be some flirting. She was engaged chatting although in a group to her friend's brother. As the time passed She and the brother were really engaged in heavy banter and held eye contact and focus totally and it really begun to feel like it was just them two. Although there was two or three people sat around the table, nobody else was really involved or could get a look in..if we changed the conversation they found a reason to just engage with each other.
I moved up to sit next to my wife and she moved forward on the edge of a seat to be more engaged in the conversation with this brother. So she almost had to turn ahead all the way around if I said something.
As the drink flowed? The conversation got off more into a sexual nature and straight into talking about anal. These are conversations that my wife would never normally entertain and actually find extremely crude and put off but here she was laughing and joking fully engaging. It was raised again and again.
We then moved on to another venue and I went away to pick up the children. When I returned I found them again setting opposite each other. Fully engaged more conversations yet more sexual talk, laughing and joking. Again, nobody else seem to exist.
As the rest of the family started to leave she remains seating throughout except for when the brother wanted to leave where she got up. Walked around a very long table to go and say goodbye with an embrace
When we got back I raised this conversation to say I wasn't comfortable the way I felt she was flirting with him holding eye contact. Not engaging anyone else around and how the conversation went straight into sexual nature and it was totally out of character for her to be discussing and how she enjoyed engaged, laughing, joking and really being giddy like a school girl. It felt over the top and totally out of character like a performance, wanting to be funny and happy.
I said that I felt really betrayed and really hurt and initially her reaction was not great and made me feel worse but she did later. Apologize and said that she would just thought she was having banta.
From a lady's perspective, what are your thoughts on this? Am I overstepping the mark reading too much into this? They haven't met before and got involved with a similar level of banter and focus and attention on each other. She did say that she doesn't fancy him. She's not her type, but I found that actions spoke louder than words.
whe. She got back home before I raised this she went straight to bed avoided me really.although she was very drunk.
What should I do? I don't want to lose her but I feel so betrayed and hurt. I just can't look at the moment.