Ready for marriage?

[Arabella705]

My fiancé and I have been together almost a year and a half and are getting married in a few months. We both know we want to get married and things are good. But sometimes he wants to be on his own. I completely respect and understanding people need alone time, he’ll do something in one room, me in another or out somewhere etc, but sometimes it will be more a situation of him telling me not to come over at all (we don’t live together fully yet). I’m worried if he’s still at a stage where he wants the whole evening and night without me, is that a sign that he’s not actually ready for us to marry and live together? It’s not like he can send me home when we’re married. I’ve asked him about it and he says he definitely wants to get married and it’s not something to worry about. But should I?

I wouldn't be too worried about this. As someone who used to love my own space I find this totally normal. I used to be like your OH is and often out off my bf from coming round because I needed my own space. My fiancé and I moved I together after 9 months and I now hate it even when he spends a night away....how the tables turned!
Just make sure when you move in together that there is room for him to have his own space sometimes.
If he says he is ready for marriage you just have to trust what he is saying otherwise these thoughts in your head will consume you x

Thank you. It’s tricky for me as when I love someone, I’m comfortable with them in my space all the time, but I know that’s not the case for everyone. Sometimes it’s hard to see it from their side so it’s good to hear the other perspective.

I think if I lived by myself, I would appreciate having my place to myself some evenings.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with needing your own space.
What might be an issue is whether you're compatible. If you want to be around him all the time, this might cause problems down the road.

What you might need to do, is make sure you always choose your living arrangements according to his needs to have a space to himself.
My husband has a home office. He needs his space too, mostly a room he can be messy in without getting remarks from me to clean up his mess 😆
He can do whatever he wants in his office, and I get a tidy living room. Win-win.

I must say that I have completely changed since living with my partner as I used to be the same as your fiancé. I'd always been with men that were offshore etc and absolutely loved my own time, now I'm more like you and would happily be with my fiancé all the time!
That being said, I have horses and he plays golf so we do have time consuming hobbies that let us have our own space. When we are in the house together though we rarely spent time apart - always watch tv together, go to bed together at the same time and always eat together
You guys will work out what works for both of you when you move in.
Just don't let it put any doubt in your head as to whether or not he's ready for marriage as marriage doesn't mean spending every minute of every day together 😃

Thank you ☺️