Does this sound like he doesn’t want me to have a job?

[Becky332]

I told him beforehand that I had got offered a job for waitressing but I’ve said to him I need to wait until the youngest child is in nursery and I’m going to apply for some bar work as I’m experienced in it because of my past and will get a part time job during the day doing it . So I told him I may aswell do the evening as I’m with the girls all day everyday so may aswell really do the evening time , but I wouldn’t do it till silly o’clock in the morning . I’m normally up and don’t go to bed until 12 or 1am anyways and normally get up at 7:30am . He is a construction worker he has never been interested in this sort of work until I had brought it up . He’s talking differently also and keeps saying different things like well my job could run overtime so may not finish until 7/8pm he never ever finishes at 7/8pm it’s always 2/3pm and 4/5pm at the latest .

I 100% read those texts as him feeling funny about you working specifically in a bar at night- (other men) and him “threatening” to do the same and attempt to passively aggressively put you off it. I came here to say I reckon that’s what’s up, as my ex was very similar about anything he could twist around to be about other men, things that had nothing to do with other men but he could attempt to make it about that. Then I read your follow up about jealousy - so there we go, that’s my bet.

You both sound young, or I'm old.

Either way life's too short to have a man child around. Get rid of him, make sure he pays you proper child maintenance. Do a course while you wait for your youngest to be in school/ nursery and think about a job you can fit around childcare and school wrap around care

Don't factor him into your plans, he's a dud