Pregnancy loss and parents communication

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If your daughter rang to say she had a miscarriage (not her first) but does have a toddler would you check in a day or a few days later on them? Or just never check in or mention it again?

well much much more than even what you suggest!

What kind of relationship do you have with your mother? I am guessing it’s very different from mine with my daughter

what was her response on the phone?

I'd check in every day.

I would check in yes

My own mother, less so

Never brought up again

Just checking im not being too over sensitive!

Yes my mother, on the phone said oh sorry and that was about it. But has since not messaged or called that was over a week ago.

We don’t have the best of relationships as she’s not great from an emotional and never has been. I feel like I grieve each time something happens like for the mum I wish I had 😭

I went to visit my daughter, well both daughters because I’ve had 2 daughters who’s had a miscarriage, visited the same day it happened, also checked sent messages and called every day to see how they were doing and they knew that they were more than welcome to visit me if they needed anything, one of them also suffered financially so we paid her rent for 2 months

If it were me I’d be there looking after my daughter and helping with grandchild.

My miscarriages were all in hospital (unmanageable pain and torrential bleeding) alone because my dh had to stay with our small child at home.
Pil and my family knew this. Not one offer to care for our little one so dh could be with me, no offers to come and sit with me in hospital.
Nothing afterwards either. Nothing.

Cunts.

@MrsNandortheRelentless i was boarder line being admitted due to heavy bleeding last week, if it got any heavier i would have been admitted. It’s awful and I can’t even imagine how bad that is. I’m so sorry people are rubbish!

Still no communication from my mother and it’s really hard not to be upset. I have contemplated going NC but my DC likes it when they occasionally visit.

why am I not good enough to be loved? Why does my mum seem to favour my siblings? Why does my mum not care about me?

if I say anything she will make it about herself, last time i told her my feelings she used the phrase “you have upset me deeply” then didn’t want to talk to me for a while.

I am having therapy and it’s mainly around my mums relationship with me. There is so much anxiety from my childhood.