How to confront DP who lied about whereabouts

[Loulou560]

Hi
Just looking for some advice really. My DP told me this morning he had a hospital appointment. I thought nothing of it, and have never thought twice about what he tells me. My Dad is currently in hospital and I thought he could visit him. Time was getting on, and I wanted some help with the children for me to do a bit of work. So, I looked on the ‘Find my’ app to see if he was on the way back.
He wasn’t in the hospital at all, but at an address about 13 miles away. He wasn’t there very long. I’ve never had cause to distrust him, but now I’m thinking what else does he lie to me about? I don’t think he’s seeing anyone else. We both work from home and have two small children, so he wouldn’t have the time! I’m sure there’s a benign reason, like he was pricing a job up, but what I do not like is that he fabricated this hospital appointment, and when I asked him how it went, he gave me a summary of what happened. Why would he lie?
the truth is, I never think I need to check up on him, and I innocently did that today. I have to tell him, but am open to advice on how to. Thank you

My first thought was he’s visiting a counsellor.

I’m not sure why everyone on Mumsnet is so anti-tracking. Everyone in my family can track each other and uses it regularly to see how far away someone is or how late they are (a sadly common occurrence here) or if they’re near the Co-op to get something or if they’ve come out of a meeting you don’t want to interrupt with a phone-call.

If no-one’s got anything to hide, what is the issue if it’s convenient for everyone and everyone knows?

What happens if someone drops their phone? Or a child leaves it at school?

I have no reason to track anyone

I don't think its an issue at all as long as people are aware of it. My husband and I use find friends, but usually it's to see whether the other is nearly home for dinner or if they're close to a shop, without ringing them if they're driving!

OP we have the same app amd that's because we trust each other so ignore other comments
My do and I both work ridiculous hours in professional jobs all over the world and it's the one thing that lets me know his plane has landed or he's arrived somewhere safely or I've arrived or he can quickly check I've left the hospital amd bung dinner in without having to disturb me.
I don't use it very often and I don't think he does but it works for us x
It never crossed my mind that it's snooping .... that's Mumsnet all over !

its easy to see why he didn’t tell you. Pull back and de-track.

Bit different to 13 miles away! I use one of these apps everyday and find it accurate to a few yards. Never ever 13 miles out!

Wow how rude, if he’s lying to her he’s not entitled to anything! It may have been innocent this time but we’ve all seen the post on mumsnet from thousands of people it wasn’t innocent for, plus he’s obviously happy for her to have the app as it was his suggestion! and she wasn’t checking up on him, she was innocently looking if he was on his way home. Wind your neck in and try to be supportive instead of nasty!