Hello everyone and happy new year!!! So I wanted some advice I know it may sound childish but I need some sort of insight if I’m just being upset for no reason.
my husband loves our family no doubt and I know he loves me but I feel like I’m not seen just like a slave we have 4 kids and he adores them he loves them soo much now before anyone says I’m being jealous yes you may think that but I am not what I do have a problem is that it’s all about them he never sits with me and talks about us or anything else everything is evolved around kids his birthday comes he wants kids around it’s our anniversary he wants to buy cake for the kids in our happiness which is fine is just he never bothers to show me any affection or love I wake up come down as usual do normal routine no hug how are you it would be nice for him to show me some love but he’s fine giving all to kids it maybe be also to do with his culture I have spoken to him and he says we are family it doesn’t mean that I don’t value you but that’s what I feel.He comes into the bedroom in the morning straight away he has his eyes on the kids doesn’t even bother to come to me show me any affection nothing and to be honest with you I don’t want to act desperate but there are some days he takes the piss and I show my anger.
which of course he says I’m jealous I’m not JELOUS I just want him to show me some love I don’t want to feel like I am just the slave of the family but he won’t change he doesn’t seem to understand that he’s while you say you love me that’s fine I’m not saying you don’t but I don’t want to feel like the 3rd wheel.