in need of some advice, sorry that this is long. i met my ex on a dating app, we hit it off straight away and after a couple of months of seeing each other he took me on a surprise trip to paris to officially ask me to be his girlfriend. honestly it was like a movie, i was totally besotted by him, and he seemed to feel the same, he took me on another surprise birthday trip too, ive never been with someone who makes that much effort so i was totally loved up and just felt on cloud 9, i thought wow ive finally found a kind and reliable guy who wont mess me aroud.
anyway we both wanted to go travelling this year, around australia/NZ/thailand etc, we had been planning the trip since last september, (at this point we'd been together 7 months) and out of the blue in november he became pretty insistent he wanted to go travelling alone for a few months, and then i come out and join him. i was baffled, the whole point is we were meant to be going together, i didnt want to sit at home and wait months. i told him that i really didnt like that idea, and it wasnt our original plan, but he wouldnt budge, but also didnt give a definitive reason as to why he wanted to go alone. i decided to leave it there for a bit to cool off as he werent in a huge rush to book anything.
a few weeks later he starts becoming distant, i asked if he was okay, if i had done something wrong, if there was something going on and he kept reassuring me he was fine. then out of the blue he tells me he needs to speak to me in person, and he breaks up with me. i was shocked and utterly heart broken. i asked why and he said he felt like he needed to 'work on himself' and be on his own, be single for a while. i was confused where it had all come from, he was seemingly so into me for the first 5-6 months, and just switched up on me. ill be honest i begged him not to leave but he did. i was a mess.
couple weeks go by and we're still messaging, he's being sweet and checking in on me and i was really holding out hope he'd change his mind. however my friend sends me a screenshot of him back on tinder, active and with new photos on his profile (photos i took of him!!), i confronted him asking why he's back on dating apps so soon when he was the one who said he needed to be single and work on himself, at first he said he just needed an ego boost so wanted to chat to some people, but he eventually admitted he had been on a few dates and kissed a girl, and also slept with another girl he met at a club. my head was totally scrambled, i was so upset.
he continued to message me and even brought me an xmas present, and now he wants to get back with me and talks about planning to travel together again. he said he made a mistake and thought the grass may be greener on the other side but realised he was wrong.
what do i do?? i love him so much but i feel like he put me through so much just to come crawling back.. he also still wants to travel alone for atleast a month before i come and join him. am i just being mugged off? or should i let it go and get back with him because at the end of the day i still love him.