Was this consensual?

[Mortified1994]

Hi everyone, please be kind as I am having a really tough time.

So I met a 'nice' guy OLD, we have mutual friends from gyms etc. I spent quite a lot of time speaking to him, he said he wanted a relationship etc and after a few dates we were intimate, but afterwards I have been really confused about what happened.

1. I was really quite drunk and remember clearly saying at the start of the evening I was not having s*x
2. He was completely sober, didn't touch a drop of alcohol
3. I am pretty sure I consented but I can't remember an awful lot, I had a terrible week at work and drank a bit too quickly
4. I remember him being really quite rough with me, to the point it was hurting me
5. I told him the next morning I was mortified that happened and I was drunk, and he pretty much hasn't said a lot since or addressed my comment. I've actually blocked him now as he went pretty silent.

I spoken to friends about this and they said it was awful of him, I didn't really see it as that as I didn't say stop or anything. What do you all think? I feel mortified and ashamed of myself. I never usually do things like that.

You clearly said at the start you are not having sex,he waited until you were drunk and took full advantage that is not consent,you weren't in a position to consent.

Absolutely vile man when you made it clear at the start.

Look even if it was 100% consensual and you can't remember what happened next his reaction tells you all. You were trashed and he still went ahead. The next day you say you were mortified and not a word of reassurance. He is a wrong Un

You don’t have to report it op don’t let people pressure you. Rape convictions in this country are a joke, I wouldn’t report it either.

If you were so drunk you could not remember them you could not have given consent. He took advantage of you. I'm so sorry .