How often do you see/speak to family

[Holibobby]

How often do you talk to / see family. My sister messages a lot throughout the day and visits mum and dad with her little one near enough every single day. I’m quite busy as a single parent and in demanding job so when I’m not working I like to ensure I have quality time with DD.

Speak on text everyday to mum and sister. Few comments been passed that I don’t go visit them much anymore, probably gone from 4 times a week to twice a week. But what is normal?

That’s more than normal I would say, I text my family on our group chat every couple of days, speak to my mum on the phone probably weekly. My parents visit Thursday evenings (only a couple of hours), and then we pop in to theirs sometimes at the weekend or meet for a walk.

but if your family are used to being in contact and seeing you more than it’s abnormal to them to see you twice a week, in most families I’d say that’s more than enough, explain to them you’re busy and trying to fit everything in

I don't have any family sadly; only me and mum and my cat. Wish I had, but it's not to be 😞

I speak to my parents 1-2 times a week.

My brothers less frequently.

My sister not at all as my mother has issues with how I speak to my dad (even though he was the one who stayed) and it's been an ongoing issue for 20+ years.

Wow I'd feel stifled!

I message my sister fairly often, a few times a week. We do quite a lot of sending tiktoks back and forth to each other.

I message my mum and/or dad a couple of times a week, and see them maybe 3 weekends a month for a couple of hours but not every weekend and not for a whole day or anything. Sometimes they'll take my daughter out for the day instead of us seeing them at their house/our house but that's not as often.

There isn't a normal. It'll all depend on various factors. There is no one size fits all so asking this I have to say is futile.

I'm NC with my family so I don't see them at all, but before that, we probably spoke a few times a month and saw each other 3 times a year (we live a long ways - a flight - away from each other in different countries).

Dh messages with MIL maybe once a week or so, sees her maybe every other month. I think BIL speaks with her about as often via WhatsApp, but lives 6 hours away, so might only see her 1-2 times a year. They all rarely speak on the phone. We might see MIL more but we aren't welcome at her house because of her partner (dh has been once in probably 8 years, only because her partner was in hospital so he could sneak in without him kicking off - that's a whole other situation).

Every day, even to message each other, would be far to much for me, but I think to each their own.

Sister every day, parents a few times a week - it’s my mum who tries to see us less 🤣

@Quirkyme I am fully aware of that - the question is asked out of curiosity

I speak to my parents most days, they are elderly so I like to check in that they are ok. I see them weekly sometimes twice weekly.

See them at least once a week often more. Speak every other day.

I speak to my mum most days and probably see her twice a month on average. I don't really speak to (or see) my dad much at all.

No siblings.

I see my in-laws most days but they only live around the corner and we have our parcels sent there so they're safe while we work.

My brothers emigrated to America in the 1990’s as got scholarships to US Universities and the rest live in Hong Kong or on the South coast, I am about 300 miles North. I see my sisters who remain in the UK twice a year and haven’t seen my brothers in America since 2019. They were supposed to come over here in 2020. I will probably see them this year. When my parents were alive I spoke to them on the phone once a week and saw them every couple of months which was a 600 mile round trip. I message my sisters every week, speak maybe twice a month. Everyone moved because of their educational and career choices. No way were we staying in the little town our parents had run a take away in. Humble immigrant beginnings, Chinese take away kids that all ended up with good careers.

Need to add, my brothers and I message once a month, their daughters now in their thirties are better and we message most weeks.

I speak to my mum every day and see her three or four times a week.

I speak to my dad about once a week or so and see him a couple of times a month at most.

Text with my dad every couple of days, ring my mam about twice a week. Ring & have a long chat with my brother maybe every couple of months. Go see parents about 4/5x a year (we live 100s of miles away) have a sibs weekend maybe twice a year.
I love them all but yeah, there's geography & other stuff going on.

It's gonna be different for every one. We face time on birthdays and Christmas and last saw them three years ago at Easter. Call when we have something to say. They live about 6 hours away by train.