My relationship with my partner is struggling because of how my in-laws treated me circa 2 years ago (with issues happening previously but partner denied as he has never known them to be nasty) we found out we were having a baby and everything went down hill from there. The relationship has had its struggles as MIL mothered my partner too much. She was a single mum and brought her kids up in multiple abusive relationships which has caused some unresolved trauma for my partner, he didn’t know how to cook, clean, look after himself until I had to teach him which is every woman’s worst nightmare! We had a few arguments in early pregnancy mainly my concerns about how are you gonna step up and be a good dad if you can’t even cook a meal etc. anyway after a bigger argument he spoke to his sister for support and it all came out that they hate me, he should leave and be a single dad etc etc. I sent a message to both MIL & SIL explaining why the argument happened and SIL completely tore me apart as a person, but also making up lies to fit their narrative. I stopped all contact from that point, partner did eventually too as it got very toxic from them and he had never known them behave in such a way, but his opinion of them has changed hugely now they’ve opened his eyes to who they really are, manipulative narcissistic etc… we had our daughter they didn’t make contact once in the pregnancy, he let them know she was born then caused an argument 2 weeks later which had my partner in tears all whilst we were trying to enjoy being first time parents. MIL has made contact a few times, partner has responded here and there, but they are the type of family to sweep things under the carpet, he has never once had an argument with her until now. He is now urging me to forgive and move on but also to involve our daughter in this toxic situation eventually. He can do what he pleases but I don’t want to forgive just now and I did think I ever can, I feel truly hurt since they were always so lovely to my face yet they really thought bad of me, it was all so fake. Partner is making it an issue between us wishing I’d forgive but currently I can’t and I don’t want to be forced into it, they not only tried to ruin our relationship but also the most exciting time of our lives. Our relationship is brilliant until he brings them up and doesn’t like my response. I didn’t do anything to be treated this way, he works away (military) a lot I’ve been nothing but supportive his entire career from the offset and navigated distance for a lot of it. So I guess I’m asking if I’m being unreasonable for feeling this way, and what would anyone suggest? Thank you