Overthinking or red flag?

[evansco]

I was messing around with dh we were in a playful mood, i put something cold on his back, he then turned and clipped me on the leg, he immediately said oh shit that noise sounded bad sorry.
I was genuinely taken back as it really bloody hurt and i half laughed it off and was half pissed off that he took it too far as it really hurt.
Nothing like this has ever happened, theres no red flags in his behaviour either.
Overthinking too much?

I think im scared of being one of the people that is constantly met with red flags but excuses them.

I'd probably have reacted the same as him. It was probably an involuntary thing. He apologised straight away. I think it's nothing at all.

Overthinking here

It was most likely an instinctive reaction to a sudden cold stimulus and he appologised straigh away which is a good sign, so Id say you are overthinking this. But overall, I'd kinda say its time you grew up, how old are you? Silly stuff like this might happen at the start of a relationship, but as you are married, you should be old enough to figure out that a sensory shock while messing about could provoke an action without thought.

Obviously, you know your husband, but to me it read that you were both messing about - a playful slap in response to your playful cold bottle on back thing - just that he hadn't meant to slap you that hard. I'd probably have reacted in the same way as your husband ...

Unless there’s a drip feed to follow I’d say you’re massively overthinking his reflex reaction

Overthinking.

Overthinking but what does clipping mean?

Just beacuse she's married that doesn't mean she's not allowed to have a laugh.what should they do sit on the sofa in their slippers reading the guardian.

Yes it probably went a bit far this time but being married a while doesn't mean not having a laugh.

Overthinking.

But the fact you've asked here is concerning tbh.

On the surface, sounds like.you are over thinking it. Unless there's a complex back story.

Dh once did that thing where you flick someone with a tea towel. He caught me on my.leg and it bloody hurt. I was furious but he apologised immediately and I knew he hadn't done it on purpose. I never once wondered if it was a red flag.

I tell the kids not to playfight because someone usually ends up hurt. 🤔

Overthinking. I would have done the same

Years ago my ex was sat on the sofa at the end where I had my feet up. No idea why, but he chose to run his finger down the sole of my foot. I reacted instinctively and kicked him in the face. Sometimes you get what you deserve 😂
You are over thinking this massively

Overthinking.

Overthinking. But can I ask why you're looking for "red flags" if it's your DH?? I thought you were going to say it was a relatively new relationship!

I think im scared of being one of the people that is constantly met with red flags but excuses them

Why, @evansco ?

Yes because married people aren't allowed to be silly or have fun with each other, that's reserved only for the early good bit of a relationship, once you hit marriage you must be straight faced and taciturn at all times 🙄

I wouldn't worry about this at all OP, he said he was sorry straight away once he realised he'd hurt you and it was obviously just reflexive. I gave my husband a black eye once when he leaned over to kiss me while I was asleep and I jerked awake and chinned him in the eye. These things happen!

@MonsteraMama

I gave my husband a black eye once when he leaned over to kiss me while I was asleep and I jerked awake and chinned him in the eye

Aww! He got more than he bargained for!

This

Pack that in, you'll have someone's eye out.

I think if he was immediately, shit sorry! Are you ok? repaired and seemed genuine then you're overthinking.

Horse play always ends up in someone getting hurt!! Unless there is a long drip-feed missing you are massively overthinking.