About 5 years ago by husband was unfaithful. Not in a physical sense (as far as I know), but he was texting other women that he met online via an app. There were some photographs exchanged etc. All pretty grubby and embarrassing. I caught him doing this three times over the course of roughly a year, although he had only exchanged photos with the first. Not sure why this matters. The final time was with a woman he employs. We very nearly separated and then lockdown happened and it became logistically rather difficult to do so.
We have 3 children and a seemingly very nice life. We both have good careers. I will admit that before this happened our marriage was not in a good place. We were arguing, I had post natal depression after our youngest child was born and we had relocated to a new area.
In the last 4 years he has been nothing but an exemplary father and family man. He has had counselling, stopped drinking and made an enormous effort to restore my trust in him. But the problem is that I just cannot get over what has happened. It's like a horrible stain on our lives that I can't do anything about. I feel so humiliated.
How do I get over this? I want our family to stay together and I want a life with my husband. Any advice from someone who has been in a similar situation would be appreciated.