Haven’t had sex in 8 years-am 38

[AmImissinganything]

I had a really awful relationship that resulted in the conception of my 7 year old. I left when I found out I was pregnant and haven’t attempted to date or connect with a man ever since. I’m starting to miss little things like hugs and handholding, and if I’m really honest I really miss sex. I had a really lovely, healthy sex life in my 20’s, but it came to an abrupt halt when I hit 30.

I have no idea how I would date, as dd only sees her father sporadically and he would cancel all contact if he found out it was facilitating me dating.

Am I having a rose tinted view of relationships? A lot of my friends are divorcing or are going through hard patches in their marriages, and I’m thinking maybe it isn’t all it is cracked up to be, but I also know couples that have been happily married for a long time. Am I selfish missing sex and mutual love? Can it happen?

Same for me and I feel selfish or wrong for saying it as people just tell me to “concentrate on my children” usually people in relationships who haven’t given up sex for years because they have kids 😂 I haven’t had sex since I was 28 I’m now 35, because I have my kids full time. I feel too young to live a life without sex but have had no choice. Could you pay for a babysitter to date? This isn’t an option for me but might work for you?

Does your ex date or have a partner? Why does you being in a relationship stop contact with his child?

I think you dating has got nothing to do with your partner and he doesn't need to know anything about it. You just have to remember that you are a woman with needs and not just a parent. Honestly just go for it, set up a dating profile and just go from there.

Don't tell anyone you're dating . Your private life is that , private.

You don’t have to tell anyone that you are dating. It’s certainly none of your ex’s business so just go for it

of course you are entitled to your own private life.

you don't have to tell your ex anything. he sounds like selfish twat. he hasn't been with you for 8 years, it's none of his business what you get up to.

OLD is not a bed of roses for sure and yes many bullshit artists out there. but you will only find love if you put yourself out there. you are still very young and have many decades ahead of you - no need to spend them alone if you don't want to.

Do you have a friend/family member who could babysit? Id absolutely have my friends child so she could go on dates!!

Never felt one.

grew up in a family aged 10 when Freddie died, just never felt that way, I’m not gay.

my mum and dad were the most open people, where other kids wanted to go to for advice at school.

Don't mention you are dating, it's none of his business. Perhaps one of your friends could assist you with childcare, especially if you reciprocate?

Who you see and date or have sex with is your business and your business alone. There are thousands of single men and women across the country who have children, who would also like to hug, and hold someone romantically, and who would like a relationship, among whom are those who also miss sex. It's not selfish, nor is it an indication that your children don't matter. Other people understand that a person's children come first, but also that this demonstrates a very lovable characteristic in a person they are attracted to. Enjoy dating, and settle for nothing but the best in a partner, in and out of bed. Take care of yourself.