Help a friend with break up

[BellKira]

My friends partner has left her and her child. They are putting the house on the market and my friend is truly struggling with this. He is the only person she has been with, they have been together 15 years and i dont know what best advice i can give her. He isnt a bad person, he just couldnt cope with her anymore as her mental health is pretty unstable. Drs are aware of her mental health and anxiety but the anxiety stops her taking any form of medication. What advice can i give a friend who feels at rock bottom and cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel? TIA XX

I would be there to.listen and give practical advice if she asks for it. She might need help..looking for suitable accommodation or msnaging bills etc. Is her child in danger?

Been trying to help her with accommodation and she rang for a viewing somewhere but theyve told her she wont be able to get anywhere until the house is sold and she has the money in her bank (cannot prove enough income for renting). Shes hoping for a meeting with a housing officer who can advise her more.
Is her child in danger of what? Her? No! Her child is looked after, attends nursery, sees her Dad regulary. My friend works in a mursery and previously worked with vulnerable children, she is not a risk to her child at all. Her mental health and her parenting are 2 seperate things. She is just going through a tough time knowing how to cope with her first broken down relationship and i was hoping for words of wisdom i could pass onto her from people who have felt/been through similar. 🙂

This happened to me recently and still going through it. Chances are it hasn't been good for awhile and her mental health is probably triggered by him for all you know. That was the case for me. But he also was abusive etc so maybe different.

At the moment she is in the stage where she will be panicked, feeling abandoned and will be worrying how she will get by without him and perhaps even in denial it's really happening.

I'm just over two weeks in and now starting to feel the new normal.

Best thing you can do is be there for her to vent, give logical responses to help her not panic and think of the worst outcomes.

Perhaps even research what she may be entitled to etc or how she can get in a better position financially. As right now the second stage is acceptance and realising no one is coming to save her she has to be the one to do it.

So if that means getting a new job, more hours, a new hobby anything she has to start thinking and taking these actions.

The more safe she feels in this new situation the better and quicker she will bounce back.

I've lost a stone in a few weeks it has been brutal as my partner just left and it sounds similar to her situation.

Strongly suggest she gets a therapist asap as she needs to have a space to unpick what's happened and how to move forward.