How to stop myself from sending him a message?

[Stephopp]

I broke up with my boyfriend because we wanted different things.

How do I stop myself from sending him a message on WhatsApp? I keep wanting to,I tell myself that he won't care and to leave it

Finding it very hard, especially as he hasn't bothered to say anything to me. I can't block him at the moment because we are both sending belongings to each other and he has to pay money he owes me.

I'm also really upset because he removed me from Instagram and he only followed me and his brother on it when we were together,he said he didn't want his friends to know about his Instagram, he's never posted anything he just had it to follow me but since we have broken up he has followed his best friend and a few others which makes me feel rubbish and like he was embarrassed of me.

I know this sounds really childish but I'm really upset

So normal to be upset and this will pass. Let yourself feel your feelings. Distract yourself from his social media - block him if you can.
Focus on a goal for yourself - exercise or travel? Book a trip or catch ups with old friends. Do something he hates but you like like go out for sushi or skiing.

@lalalaletmeexplain on Instagram - give her a follow and read her book or podcasts

Being in contact with him is a habit, you will get used to not being in contact with him in time. Be kind to yourself & fake it until you make it

Years ago when me and my ex split I read something and it said Be Classy, Not Crazy. But basically meaning keep your dignity etc and don’t be tempted to do things that are going to make him or others or yourself see you as ‘crazy’. Whenever I was tempted to message I’d just say that little phrase and think how I’d want to be seen. Do I want to feel silly by messaging and getting no reply and feeling worse? Do I want him telling his future partners or friends that I was this crazy girl who wouldn’t leave him alone etc (all a bit extreme but it helped). Or would I prefer to keep a bit of mystery, so he wouldn’t know if I was upset or not. Looking back now I’m sooo glad I don’t have any embarrassing or cringey messages that I sent to him, I didn’t do anything that I now regret etc. I think no contact can be more powerful than messaging about your feelings which you’ll later regret.