Why can't my MIL LOOK forwasrd to having my ds for 1 day instead of making him visit her dp in a nursing home and stay there for 6 hours?

[DrNortherner]

Aaaargh.

MIL never helps with childcare for ds. Never. She is always my last resort to ask and so far I have managed all school hols without her help. Ds is in Yr 1.

Anyway, am stuck on Thursday as ds's school has teacher training day. Other schools in the area do not break up till thurs no no holiday clubs are running on thurs. All my friends kids are at school on Thurs so can't ask for help there.

Dh and I are already using holiday day's for the 2 second weeks and we need to save some for summer.

I told MIL she is last resort. She is doing it cause she has to basically.

Bring his Nintendo ds she says cause he will bored in the nursing home all day....

No shit Sherlock.

look a 7 year old can have fun wherever he is .. do you never watch made-for-tv movies .. I bet he runs off with a gang of OAPs on a last quest for an adventure and finds an alien egg in a swimming pool etc etc etc

He's 5 twig

But yes, he can have fun in most places I agree. It just annoys me that she does not want to do anything with him.

He does a mean line in armpit farting noises - that should keep the old dears amused?

northener, are there any emergency cm's in your area?

ok maybe its not time to get one organised for this time BUT you should get something thats there in case you need it

there are lots of chldminders who do emergency care

have a look round for the future

could you take a half day?

Don't let him go there..those places are boiling, full of germs and deadly boring..poor thing.

Hadn't thought about emergancy childcare actually. Worth a thought for next time.

How annoying is it though using an emergancy childminder when MIL lives 5 mins away?

Anyway, I have no choice but to do this on this ocassion. I'm just moaning about her really.

Sorry.

Oh the germs, hadn't thought about that...

moan away. i feel sorry for you, its very hard i know. what does ds think about this? if he pleaded with MIL to go to park what would she do? does the home have a garden? maybe he could take his football. give him a packed lunch. the wee lamb - i hope the nice old ladies have some barley sugar in their pockets for him.

Yes it has a garden. Football is a good idea.

I had already thought about a packed lunch otherwise she will feed him shite all day to keep him quiet.

some old codger will rope him into a game of dominoes or poker or somesuch

at the idea of children not being allowed to go to nursing homes. Also would imagine most 5yos have better immunity than your average nursing home inhabitant - who will all have had flu jabs unlike the 5yo.

Problem I see is the length of time MIL is planning on spending there and her failure to accommodate noertherner's DS at all. If she had said "we will pop in the nursing home for an hour and then go to pizza hut and the park" or soemthing on those lines it would be OK IMO.

Exactly Bozza. a couple of hours would be OK.

But to not do anything to accommodate your grandson at all is a bit off imo.

Just checked your profile as DD and Ds1 would love to have some one new to play with but you are too far away. Sorry.

My parents tend to be a bit like this though northerner, very caught up in their own concerns. But I think that really in the end you have to accept that that is the way it is, no point in letting it affect you more than it has to IYSWIM.

I know your parents don't live locally, but could they help at all? Maybe take DS there after school on Weds and go collect him on Friday?

My ex MIL was the same. She was to have looked after my son on the day that I had to go with my older child to the Zoo with the school. It was all arranged weeks in advance and she let me down at the last second because....... he was recovering from chicken pox and she thought she would catch shingles from him. I set her straight as politely as I could, but she reckoned that her doctor told her that she shouldn't go near him. I knew she was lying. No practising gp would be so out of date.

Anyway, I paid a neighbour (her dd was same age as my son) 25 pounds and she was happy with the arrangement as a one off.

Could you think of anybody who might welcome a few bob? I would do it once in a blue moon for somebody quite happily, I just would never do childminding iyswim.

good luck.