Divorce help

[Concernedmomma25]

Hi all, I've been with my H for 22 years, we've not been intimate for 3 years (sorry TMI) and its been on my part anyway a hard last 5 years.
I've genuinely fallen out of love with him, everything about him annoys me and I cry at night because I don't want to be in this situation anymore we have 4 children 2 live at home age 12 and 14 and my main worry is what they will feel about it. Please can someone give me some honest advise about how to approach this. Thank you

what your children will feel?
probably very relieved that they aren’t living with parents together that are very very evidently loveless

Can either of you afford to move out? Starting with a boring pragmatic approach: What do your present finances look like? Do you work OP?

Also, if you want to list your main concerns or questions, that might give you some clear, concise guidance/answers from posters. I’m (almost) twice divorced… a pro. 😁 Happy to advise.

I am currently going through this with kids a similar age - they are pretty ok! More absorbed in school/friends/etc, just want to know that their lives will be fine. I think it's not a bad age - after early childhood but before exams etc.
Of course I'd prefer it wasn't happening at all but they genuinely seem to be managing alright. STBEXH and I are v amicable, which I'm sure helps.
We are 'nesting' initially so the kids won't go anywhere...

I think staying for the children is all kinds of wrong and totally unfair. When they find out you've been miserable but stayed for them it will devastate them and it is an awful burden to put on them.

I separated from my h last year and the kids have taken it much better than I expected and they thought we were good. It is different as mine are away at uni and in their own place but yours aren't tiny. They are old enough to be told the truth. Though obviously not that you aren't having sex.

If you want out then you need to make it happen. Don't sleep walk into another five years of misery. He won't leave. It has to be you.