In a nutshell we were only together for 18 months. She moved very quickly, proposed to me by 8 months and then the true colours came out.
I had a year of emotional abuse, lies, twisting, manipulating, guilt tripping.
i spotted it pretty quickly as I’ve only had healthy relationships before so it stood out.
I tried to leave but she promise me it would change & she’d prove she was trustworthy- she prove the total opposite and then some!!
Came to a head and I left for good but she harassed me for almost 3 months. Begging and begging for another chance but it’s all lies.
she would beg to talk and when we did she’d speak to me like utter cr*p! Bizarre.
She destroyed the relationship and broke my heart, I have never been or felt betrayal like it.
I know I have made the right choice it’s just hard. And that annoys me in itself.
Everytime i said it was over and to leave me alone she would just continue. She ruined my Christmas with her harassment. It made me feel frightened at times as I didn’t know what she would do next even though she never threatened me.
The last I heard was 10 days ago when she left a very long answerphone message begging again.
I just text her the next day saying I had nothing to discuss.
She didn’t reply which is very unusual as she would always respond or ignore it and carry on saying what she wanted.
First I thought she must of got the message now but it’s left me feeling like it’s a new tactic & she is going to appear again.
I’ve just had a fresh start which she didn’t want me to do so I expected her to come and spoil it as whenever I’ve something important (job, test etc) she would start a drama the day before to put me off. Like she didn’t want me to have any independence.
I know I am worth more, I have a lovely family, great friends, a good career but when does the feeling like you’re in a washing machine end?