Please be gentle....
My husband and I have been together for a long time and have children. We really do have a good relationship. We have a very passionate relationship, sex life is great, we do argue but always sort things through. Up until recently we have good communication. I am a stay at home mum (and know I'm in a very vulnerable position financially) and he controls the main finances and bills.
Recently I have felt like something was off. I convinced myself he was having some sort of affair or something. Just little things that I would never have noticed unless I'd been suspicious. I don't really know how it started either, I just suddenly felt like he'd become abit distant. We have spoken about it and he tells me I have absolutely nothing to worry about and has answered all my questions and said it was all in my head but I still have a niggle. I have told him over and over if there was anything troubling him to tell me about it.
Anyway last night I checked his phone. Couldn't find anything but then I'm not stupid and know people will cover their tracks. However, I did find an email saying that his credit card is nearly maxed out (about £900). I have also recently found some paperwork for a new credit card.
Maybe this is what he is hiding from me? How do I go about having this conversation - do I admit to being on his phone? Up until now we have had a really good relationship and he is a good man but he does lie about stupid stuff sometimes and why would he keep this from me and make me think I'm going crazy? My mind is a mess