Posting on facebook

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I used to post a lot on facebook but now I find it cringe. Why have I changed?

Same . I go back through the memories and can't believe the amount and the stuff I used to put on there

Same 😳😳😳 it's absolutely cringe worthy

Same, I post once a year if that a photo of my dc for my family to see and that's it.
I really only use fb for groups and to see local events nowadays.
Still have fb friends who post daily and I find it cringy.

I’m hardly on FB these days. Its just same old attention seekers posting filtered photos wanting the ‘OMG babe you’re gorgeous’ validation.

I have a quick scroll, get bored and close the app.

I post a few group photos on nights out and that’s it. Otherwise I only use it to see what events are going on

Yes it's good for local events and news etc
That's the only reason I still have it

I think you just think what was I doing ! everyone these days overshares people do it to earn followers and earn money it's just too much imo. I see some of the fb nonsense I used to say in my memories and cringe, it's fine to be selective and private.

Same. I've gone back and deleted nearly all my posts. Can't do much about the likes but I just use it for local and community information now.

I still use FB I can't get on with Instagram and tik tok is horrendous, but I try and not post as much guff !

Same ! The memories make me die 🤣 I post only around 6 times a year just really nice photos from travelling that’s it.

I am the same, I deleted all my social media accounts about 2 years ago and it was the best decision I have ever made. It’s such a waste of time and the crap people post on there is so cringe and attention seeking it’s very sad. Go to your settings, download all your pictures and then get rid of it all.

Also FB is very manipulate and is a major player in the disparity between people and groups, allowing them to attack each other with false information and manipulation. It’s so evil! If everyone leaves Facebook and other social media it will lead to a better world and more open discussion, empathy, love and care!

Can you delete all @Bry8899 ? Thanks

Yes you would just delete your whole account, no more account, no more Facebook 👌🏻

No one under the age of around 40 uses it anymore IME. It's the same as all these things they drop out of fashion, like what was it card, Friends Reunitted?

Photos can now be shared on WhatsApp or messenger. FB had a place when you used to have to pay to send pictures via text.

I love FB for the groups. I'm in loads of parenting groups and groups related to an illness my DD has. Also my local groups are amazing for finding out what's going on, especially family-friendly activities.

I don't post anything on my timeline, primarily because I'm lazy, but I use FB everyday.

No one under the age of around 40 uses it anymore IME.

OF course they do.

As per the rest of your post, they use it differently from young people when it first came out, as there are so many other options now.

Teenagers and 20 somethings rarely use facebook. It's a last resort after Instagram/TikTok/BeReal/Snapchat. Give it another 15/20 years and it'll have gone the same way as Friends Reunited and My Space.

I don't disagree @MermaidEyes .
As a whole group, Facebook isn't the 'go to' use of social media, but I'm just pointing out to IDon'tLikeAldi that lots of people who are under 40 do use Facebook in all sorts of ways.

Yeah my teenagers do

Although tbh I think it's mainly to be nosey and see what their older relatives are up to

I would delete mine if I did not have a business that massively relies on a social media presence 😩

I am sooooo glad it's not just me. I have had enough of it now. After 15 years - I am done.

It's full of people bragging, hunning, bitching, and moaning. And spiteful facebook groups - remember the ones supporting certain Big Brother contestants, and slating others? Then you have the #ArchiesArmy type of people. And the dreaded facebook marketplace. Full of con-merchants trying to sell you something that doesn't exist, and people trying to offer you a laughable amount for something you are selling.

And many people on it are soooooooooooo annoying!

My 2 adult DC (late 20s,) rarely use it - and my 3 closest friends don't either (hardly.) All 3 friends in their 50s and 60s. (Maybe a 2 dozen photos a year/7 to 10 posts.) My DH deactivated his about a year ago!

I have about 80 'friends' on there. 4 or 5 ex penpals, half a dozen or so ex work colleagues (and their partners and adult DC,) 9 or 10 extended family members, (and their partners,) 8 or 9 close family members and their partners - (excluding the DC,) 10 or so neighbours/people who live in my area (who all added me when I put something for sale on the facebook marketplace,) 6 or 7 colleagues of DH, 10 or so old school pals, and 4 or 5 old neighbours. A few more people who are acquaintances...

I am tired of seeing 'OMG this man is so wonderful. He has been the best dad, and he is taking me to New Zealand for my 55th birthday. Love U hunzy. mwah mwah mwah......!' And 'I love my family so much #babygirl #hubby #momma #nana #greatgrandma, #auntie, #cousins' with a photo of 15 family members on a week-long trip to Spain, with #makingmemories, and #familyiseverything.

Then there's the braggy sickly couply posts with women gushing over their husband/partner, (bleurgh!) And then pictures of people posting photos from Canada, China, Australia, Dubai, South Africa, etc, and all the best holiday ever posts.

Then there's the posts from people living in a beautiful leafy rural area, or somewhere big and 'swanky' bragging about their lovely area and their amazing home and huge garden.

It's so miserable and grim for people who can barely afford a day trip to Grimsby, or who live in a 5th floor flat in a grotty part of the city, (and long for a country cottage,) and people who are very poor financially, and people who have no family members except their own children and partner - or even less than that. Some people have no-one. Many people only have 3-5 family members including their children. Seeing big happy massive families together can make people feel sad and lonely.

One family I know (2 women aged 50-ish, with 3 young adult children, and 2 grandchildren) and the great-gran and great grandad - who live in my area - post around 50 photos a week of themselves and their kids. Every fucking WEEK. Two of the 3 young adult women have a child (one aged 2 and one aged 4.) They posts photos of them 4 or 5 times a week! And sometimes the posts have 5 to 8 photos. Seriously, the child has not changed since yesterday, or even last week or last month!!!

When one of them had a whinge in November - about how she had put 17 photos of her child in 3 weeks, and a certain friend had only 'liked' 3 of them, and she thought she must have a problem with her, I thought 'that's it. I'm done.' She wasn't on about me, but I thought 'it won't be long before it IS me she is slagging off.'

I put a message on my facebook - as the 'cover' photo saying 'I am off facebook for the foreseeable future.' I got about responses from about 25-28 people, saying 'hope you are ok, hope you come back etc...' but the other 50 or so didn't respond! And the non-responders were all people who are the braggy ones, the massive attention seekers, and the ones who post pics of their kids and them and their partner non-stop... (And the woman who complained her friend didn't 'like' enough of her posts did not respond either!)

3 weeks after my 'I'm off facebook for the foreseeable future' post. I deactivated it (this was early December!) It feels so liberating!!!

I also agree with the poster saying some younger people do use it still - as well as middle aged and older people.

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Same....funny isnt it.
I think I was posting for an audience and now i dont need one.
Also I saw other people's cringeworthy posts and it made me change what and how I post.

Facebook seems to only be used by two types of people these days. Show-offs who want everyone to know how great their life/relationship/holiday is, or tedious people who enjoy spending their evenings getting involved in arguments or moaning about incredibly trivial nonsense (someone's bad parking, neighbour's dog barking, etc etc) in local groups.

True. My current beef is people banging on about their grandchildren. I have about 6 or 7 people on my facebook (well I did have before I deactivated it in early December 2023!) who post around 20 to 30 photos of their grandchildren a WEEK. In addition, they post pictures featuring quotes like 'you don't know real love until you have grandchildren' and one woman even posted a weird meme that said she loves her grandchildren more than her own children.

They call them names like Myla Smiler, and Lily LuLu, and Pixie-Poops-Poppykins. The grandmother is called 'nana meemee' or 'nanny babba' and all sorts of stupid fucking twatty names.

I will NEVER be like that when I have grandkids. NOPE I will not. That said, at this point in my life, I actually don't particularly desire grandchildren. Both my 2 DC (mid 20s,) are a bit indifferent about having children, and tbh if they never had any, I don't think I would care. I know some people are obsessed with their offspring having children, but I am rather blasé about it. I spent 22-23 years raising my 2, and have no desire to be looking after children again anytime soon!

Seriously though, some of these quotes are just weird. Did the people who wrote these (and who plaster them over facebook) not do a very good job of raising their children? Were they not there for them? Did they feel they failed them somehow? And they are trying to over-compensate by obsessing over their grandchildren? Because the gushing over them is just odd. As I say, 6 or 7 different people I know, actually do this... SO odd.

It's not even just like a normal 'love' for them IMO. It's like an obsession, with a desperate need to tell everyone how much they love them. And as I said, even to the point of appearing to love them more than their own children.

Exactly what i did. Deleted photos... deactivated account years ago. Im not on any social media now.
It is cringey..i also don't know where i found the time , i also felt disengaged from the real world (not bad sometimes lol.. but i just read a book or listen to podcast now). I see no benefit for myself in social media

One more thing I meant to post is that I have (did have) a few women on my facebook who are 63-75 ish, and they have 4 to 7 children. (age around 42 to 57-ish.) They have between 12 and 18 grandchildren - and around 8 to 10 great grandchildren. Then there is all the spouses of their children - and spouses of their grandchildren.

Consequently, literally every week there is a family birthday. A big celebration on facebook with a dozen photos gushing over our 'baby grand' Lana, who is 2 today, or 'my gawjuss granddaughter Ellie who is 18 today,' or 'my sweet daughter Maria who is 38 today' or 'my lovely son-in-law Daniel is 23 today, wish him happy birthday everyone!!!' la la la...' Every. WEEK! Some of these people aren't even on facebook!!! Daniel isn't. He won't see it. Neither will 2 year old baby grand Lana!!

And you feel you have to comment on every fucking one! And 'like' it, and put a happy birthday gif on, and say 'woo hoo happy birthday!' To this random fucker you have probably never met, and will never meet, and who will possibly not even see your greeting!!! And if you don't acknowledge the post, they will get huffy and offended. Seriously, I have had enough! I am so glad I deactivated facebook last month!