Unwelcome "help"

[Mimilamore]

Does anybody else have a husband/ wife/ partner who doesn't do the diy jobs that really need doing but launches into a pet project which they are neither fit or able to do properly and then wonder why you are not overjoyed at the shoddy result?
The latest being a lop sided suspended shelf in the kitchen which is neither use or ornament that I now have to stain and wax apparently!!
In order to complete this "job" he has made several holes in the ceiling and got wood filler up the wall

God, no! You aren't playing along with this, I hope?

urgh! just get someone in behind him to make things good and if he asks why tell him it's because his work was crap.

No I don't play along with it... I voice my objections, he does it when I go out....

urgh! just get someone in behind him to make things good and if he asks why tell him it's because his work was crap.

I would if money was no object but sadly can't afford to...

My ex used to do this. He would, without warning, get up and start dismantling something, or stripping the wallpaper off. His personal best was when he started knocking down a wall. He was shit at DIY, he couldn't do it, he didn't know how to do it and the jobs always remained half finished. I hated living like that.

It wasn't the worst reason why I got rid of him, but it was up there as one of the strong reasons.

I sympathise, OP, I know how distressing it is. Some people think it's kinda funny but it really isn't when you have to live in the chaos created.

Maybe consider if you want to continue to live like this.

Thank you for your sympathy. It is wearing.... he is old now so I'm hoping that he just won't physically be able to do anything more.

I'm getting a horrible feeling he won't give it up - just get worse and take longer 😬

As regards your shelf, for goodness sake don't wax & finish it! I recommend taking it down - and making good the damage, as he's unlikely to. You're stuck with an unwanted job either way, but only one of those ways clutters your life up with a wonky shelf.

Yes, had already thought that I would do this... have done it before with some horrible shelves across a window!

I do the DIY here so I guess I'm very lucky!

@Mimilamore if you were nearby I'd come round and 'fix' (remove) the shelf for you and obviously make good the walls. If you make me a cup of coffee and perhaps slip me a chocolate biscuit I'd be over the moon!

What a lovely offer... thank you

Barry Bodgit.
DIY stands for don't involve yourself.