I pinched a nerve in my back in the middle of the night picking my baby up off the floor after a nappy change. I asked my partner in the morning if he could take the day off as I need some rest from all the bending and lifting I do with a baby and 2 year old. He refused and I told him rest is very important with a pinched nerve and it would probably be fine tomorrow if I was able to rest today. I asked my mum if she could come over but she said she had to work cos her boss left and the only other person that works in the shop is brand new and can't do the shift on her own, they'd have to close the store if mum took the day off.
Anyway as the day went on the pain became continuous and burning from all the lifting (in the morning it only hurt when I bent over etc. shooting pains). I told him he needs to take tomorrow off as I just want to heal up fast and don't want this to become a chronic issue. It would not be fair If I end up with chronic back pain because I was unable to rest.
Got up for 4am night feed and it was still burning took some drugs to help me go back to sleep.
I woke up this morning feeling a bit better but since I've been lifting my baby this morning I feel worse again. Really worried this is going to turn into a long lasting/chronic issue for me. I'm hurt emotionally too. I actually feel like leaving him now. There's been other things pushing me away but this is like the last straw. Since our daughter was born (2.5 years old) I have never asked him to have a day off. Wouldn't most SO's take the day off if their partner was unable to bend etc?