Wierd set up?

[bomita]

My DP lives with his parents. We havn't been together long.

I just find it odd, the 3 of them (he, his mum and his dad) all live in a tiny (apparantly) 2 bedroomed flat and have done since he was born. They all work full time.

Why, if you had 3 full time wages coming in would you choose to live in a 2 bedroomed flat in a dodgy area (so its not as if houses are expensive)? it just doesn't add up to me.

Am I being paranoid and judgemental or would you find this odd too?

how old is he?

How old is he?

Is it possible that they just like the area and their friends?

I don't think it's that judgemental but it would depend on his age and exactly how much money they have or if his parents need some kind of care?

Maybe they're very attached to the flat because it has fond memories for them after being there so long. Maybe they like the fact that a small home is easier to clean and maintain.

Maybe they are hoping he will move out soon so they dont have to move to a bigger place

They don't have friends in the area, his dad doesn't have friends at all and his mum only has friends that she works with.
DP doesn't have friends around there either and always goes on about how horrible it is and that he and his parents hate it because its full of chavs. He also says that the flat is such a tip that there is never anywhere to sit as ironing/washing etc is always piled up on the sofa and its such a mess that he couldn't possibly let me see it.

He's 27. They don't seem to have any money, when they're washing machine broke his mum had to start handwashing everything and thats been over a year now and they still don't have a new one. This is what I find odd, you'd think with 3 wages coming in that they'd have a bit of money...?

Maybe they've a lot of debts to clear off?

you have never been to the flat where your dp lives?

If they got a 25 year mortgage when they bought it, it would probably (?) be paid off by now? Wonder where the money is going!

i had an ex like this. he lived in his parents' small 3 bedroom semi. he had the box room, his older sister who had married and moved away had the 2nd bedroom for in case she and her husband ame to sleep over. very bizarre. more so because my ex earned around £50k and was 27 years old. and he paid them no rent what so ever. oh...and he shared their run about car while his sports car sat on the drive way for weekend use only. odder than odd. only went out with him for 4 months.

They don't own it, they rent it.

No, I've never been, he says he's embarrassed by it (even though my own home is often a mess, he says my house is a 'palace' compared to their flat).

He doesn't pay a penny towards living there either.

are you SURE he lives with his parents. do you trust him?

I can't be 100% as I've never even met any of his family or friends. He tries to put me off going there. He's met all my family and a few of my friends and I thought that would kind of spur him on to introduce me to his but no

I have seen his driving license etc

I think alarm bells must be ringing a bit? How long have you been seeing him for?