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What do you do about ending relationship?

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sunshine1901 · 11/01/2024 08:51

I’ve come to realise my husband is abusive and if he abuses me in front of our child I have to draw a line. He told me during what would be called an argument, though to me it was nothing and I wasn’t arguing back, I was just subjected to the vitriol, that we were done. This was last night and in front of the child.

now I know what he’s like and he won’t vacate our home if I asked him to tonight. How do you take the first step to actually move something along?

I have no idea if this was the right thing to do but I have voice recordings of the abuse he dished out to me while our baby is clearly in the background given the screams. I have concerns about his anger issues and have for some time (the whole time?) oh what have I done 😞

I don’t have anywhere that I can go especially as I have a baby. I’m at the end of my maternity leave. I have no support closer than 45 minutes away.

I suppose I feel vulnerable about the whole situation when I am also utterly conflicted at being in this situation and mortified.

if I leave him a few days he may make tentative steps to speak to me as I know I’ll know have the cold shoulder for a few days. He will feel I must apologise but no apology for his conduct will be offered. He never apologies. Sorry I’ll leave this here as really I ought to make a separate post to comment on his behaviour more generally.

initially though what on earth do I do? Should I keep plodding on as normal to get things sorted. Or try to make him leave?

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