Last week I invited my grandma and mother to my sons play. They both said they would come. My mum always comes to the plays/assemblies but my grandma hardly ever comes to my house, I think last year she came twice in the whole year.
She has other great grandkids but sees them all the time, she goes to see my cousins kids every weekend and looks after my other cousins daughter very regulary. She hardly ever see's my kids...to the point where she still gets mixed up with their names.
Anyway the play was yesterday and my kids also happened to be in the achievement assembly together the same day so I phoned to ask her if she'd like to come to that too (the assembly was in the morning and the play was in the afternoon, the idea was that she'd spend the day at my house with my mum). She said she would but didnt sound too happy about it so I said I'd pick her up to make it easier for her.
When she got in the car she said she wouldn't be going to the play afterall, since they were both in the assembly in the morning she'd stay and watch that then go home at dinner time I was a bit upset as my son was expecting her to be there but I didn't say anything.
Anyway, we went to the assembly then she wanted to go and have a look at the dolls house shop next to the school...whilst in there she decided to buy a huge dolls house and said to the shop keeper "its ok, my grand daughter will take it home for me but first I need to go to the bank..." This was at 11.30 and my sons play was due to start at 1.45pm and nobody had had any dinner or anything.
So basically she wanted me to take her to the bank, then back to the shop, then back to my house for dinner and then home. I said I couldn't do it as I would miss my sons play so she asked what time the kids left school and would I take her home then?
So, she was too tired to stay for the play but she was willing to stay until 3pm if I was to take her home with the dolls house etc?
Ok, I know she's in her 70s and isnt exactly fit and well but at the weekend she spent ALL DAY with my cousins kids at the sea-side yet said she would be too tired to stay at my house until 3pm (before the dolls house came into it).
Anyway, I didn't say anything but this morning my mum (who was fuming) told her over the phone that she had upset me and that I thought she was out of order spending all day with my cousins kids yet not staying to watch my sons play.
Now I feel guilty and am worried that she's upset!!!
So should I be upset or am I being childish?