For anyone who's tried out marriage counselling, what was the trigger that made you decide it was time?

[nigellastan]

Feel like i've been thinking about it, but never actually made it happen.

Then do it. Most people start it too late.

Yes I started when we had separated and we are just starting it now. I would absolutely
book it in, tbh i wish we’d started sooner

Yep, do it now. Don't wait til you hate each other too much to make it work. Speaking from bitter experience.

I waited until we hated each other .. the marriage was over by that point however it was never going to work as my ex was abusive. The counsellor picked up on this and I saw him seperately.
What I would say to prepare you if you do down this road is you feel really drained and tired after these sessions. But they make you think and reflect and you will lest so much about yourself as well as each other.
if you go to a good counsellor you will get homework every week which will be stuff like holding hands, checking in with your husband every day ( each other), going out for dinner … it’s like getting to know each other again.
though it didn’t work for us I still have faith in this kind of therapy. In a way it prepared me for my new relationship and I did learn so much about myself.