Long story short: friends DH went from saying he 'wasn't happy' on a late July Wednesday (because she had dared to question him meeting up with a new female work 'friend' on a weekend with their ddog) to leaving her on the Sunday, taking off his wedding ring, saying he wanted her out of their house asap, asking friend what she was doing with her rings and insisting their divorce should be completed in 8 weeks. I supported her by showing her The Script from here, suggesting to her that this work 'friend' will magically become a girlfriend (she did) but he still maintains he isn't seeing her even though he is regularly at her house inc Christmas Day and NYE (he doesn't know friend knows this but she has concrete proof). Advised her not to rush into making any decisions, not to leave their house and not to immediately do what he tells her.
He moved back in 'with his parents' and filed for divorce in late August, friend had until this week to respond to divorce - she has been in a tailspin and has struggled to even speak to a solicitor as she is really upset, but has accepted the house will have to go onto the market this month. He has just sent her a message saying he wants all her financial details, pension, bank account, savings etc by the end of today and wants to explore buying her out of their house.
Does she have to give him all this info? I have told her to hang fire. Why would he need her pension and savings details to see if he can buy her out? Also, he gaslights her to high heaven, and tries to use legal speak with her (he works for a bank) to get what he wants. I thought the only people you are compelled to share financial affairs with is your own solicitor and the judge when you get a clean break financial order as part of the divorce? Am I wrong? Can anyone advise?