We all do it but I'm just beyond fed up!

[Kittykit992]

I've stayed in a relationship way to long, I know it.
I'm 95% sure he knows I'm fed up aswell so just throws some extra "being nice" in there.

We have children separately but not together.
But have been together since they were 2 & 3.
They know no different and one has autism so needs constant routine.
At first I made excuses because of love, then it turned into the kids..
Well now honestly I'm sick of it.
Kids would be devastated but I kind of just don't care.

Contributes fuck all, paying for a holiday but that apparently means he doesn't need to pay for everyday life and I should be greatful and say thank you 🤣🤣🤣
I pay out more every month for us to live compared to this fucking holiday!
I also said before it was booked, if he can't pay towards anything else then dont book it because I'm not doing it!

Just so bloody fed up I want to scream!
I wanna change my jobs because I'm miserable.
But apparently I'm not allowed.
Me and him do NOTHING other than sit at home.
Just absolutely done.
Want to be happy and do shit.
I've tried to discuss but nothing in return

So he contributes nothing? A little bit of nice is not worth staying for. You deserve do much more.

Sounds like he is selfish and not concerned about sharing household costs. You are right to be fed up, angry even with this malinger.
Supporting one another, sharing costs and fun times whilst caring for each other makes any relationship stronger. Seems he doesn’t appreciate that or can’t, so work out your exit and set a date to go. Leaving him sounds like the best approach for you and your children as they will sense your unhappiness in your relationship.
I’d say stay strong and leave him.

You will be happier without him. Start the process. You have one life.l, take the chance now.

Leave him, then leave your job.

Life is too short for misery.

But why have you let this go in for so long? Surely there was a discussion about visa bills etc before now?

Who does the housework?

And has he got loads of money saved as a result of not paying his share?

And he can't decide if you change jobs or not!

Get the ball rolling asap. This time next year you'll be 💯 % happier.

He isn't a partner, he is making your life harder. Break up.

Not allowed to change your job!!! Ltb cocklodger!!

You'll probably be a lot less miserable without him by the sound of things.

So he's a coxklodger then

Time for him to leave then… the sooner you start the ball rolling the sooner you’ll be out the other side of the nightmare!

So many of these cocklodger posts after the first of the year. I guess it's not surprising when people take this time to reflect and find out they don't want to keep doing this and keep being used by some useless twat.

Why are you putting up with this?

Did he move into your home?

How old is your child? Are the children with you both all week?

As the others have said, you have a cocklodger. Someone who get everything paid for them but you seem to have an extra special type of cocklodger as he gets to decide what you can and can't do. Why is that? If you can figure out why then it might be easier to kick him out.

Who owns the house?

You can't have lived with him for years if he wasn't contributing at the start, so at what point did he stop paying his way.