Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Need a hand hold.

2 replies

Flash15x · 09/01/2024 20:56

I've just split with someone after nearly a year.

Someone who was never really my type, had a lot of baggage (in the middle of a divorce) etc but he came in and swept me of my feet. Made me believe I was enough just being me. Complimented me. I felt like I could be myself. Seemed like a nice normal guy. Didn't want to go out and get drunk every weekend.
I had my reservations given his situation but supported him and he always reassured me, I was his dream woman etc and let me show you. I wasn't a rebound etc.

The day we split he told me he loved me and said see you later. I asked if he saw a future and then He said everything in the background is getting on top of him and it's made him do alot of thinking. That something In him has just changed and he needs to be on his own. How none of this feels good but he's doing what he thinks is right for him.
Said he hopes we can still be friends.
Then was joking around before I left about I might do this with my hair and just laughing like it was all fine. I've sent a few messages since (wish I hadn't) but he's gone ghost.

He's now done things like got his friend I'd never met to block me on social media, reactivated his Facebook that he deactivated off his own back way back.

I just feel so angry and hurt that I've given myself to someone who I clearly didn't know. Who I tried so hard to make me feel good about them self, was good too, put first. How do I get over this please?

OP posts:
B1rd · 10/01/2024 01:34

Please ignore him or any other man and go and find yourself.
Go and find friends, a hobby or anything else that will keep you busy.
You said he wasn't right for you, so why were you entertaining less than you are worth?

Please block him on everything, because he will be back. Any man who says, I love you and goes, is just giving you bits to leave you hanging. Be better than this. There will be other men, better men.

He will come back, for a shag....never do that. You are so much better than that.

Also, write down in your phone all the reasons you currently hate him, do it now. So when when he comes back, read it.

ZebraD · 10/01/2024 01:40

All of the above.

He will be back - he will try but won’t be able to because you’ll block him! Give your self chance to find someone who deserves you because he certainly doesn’t.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page