What's normal?

[Jenna67]

So after taking some time for myself after coming out of an 8 year relationship I've started to get back on the dating scene.

I've been talking to someone for about 3 weeks and we've been on 4 dates ....the next one being at the weekend. We get on really well, very flirty and I think things will turn physical on our next date.

I've not had to do this for a very long time and I'm wondering when's the right time to ask if they're still speaking to other people or if it's just me?

Also how many times a week would expect to see someone ?

I know it's seems petty but don't want to scare him off

It's not about "the right time", it's about intentions.

He doesn't owe you any explanation about his life, same for you. How many people he is seeing is irrelevant, he could just lie anyway. If he wants to be with you he will make time, and from that you will quickly be able to answer the questions yourself.

After four dates I wouldn't even entertain the conversation. Just relax!

At this stage, maybe once a week for a date. Have you DTD?

You are really giving this too much thought OP.

I'd say once a week initially, but sounds like you've already done more than that.
Don't let him push it faster than you want to go at. 4 dates is fairly early, you still don't know him that well yet. Avoid dates to each others house, meet in public, then there's no awkward conversations. Probably better to take your time as been out of the scene, there's no rush, and if he disappears, you'll know its just the sex he was after.

Normal is whatever works for you. Sounds promising so far but yes 4 dates is very early. If you’re absolutely sure you want to sleep with them then go ahead.

Personally, I would ask if he was seeing other people before i decide to have sex but that’s me, everyone is different. I’m old school about dating being exclusive.

I think if you’re comfortable enough to get naked with someone then you should feel that you can have the exclusive conversation.

As for how often to meet. Well again it’s whatever works for you. Once or twice a week would be plenty for me but other people might want more.

Basically there’s no one size fits all normal. It’s what’s right for you.