Family member conviction

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I’ve recently found out a relative was convicted of having extremely dodgy pictures on their PC. It’s all done and dusted with respect to the justice system thankfully (and rightly so).

I’ll be honest, I just don’t even know what to do with myself.

Obviously, I can’t do anything in reality. However, I just never imagined knowing that a relative of mine would do such a thing. I know as humans we all have hidden depths, and loads of people do all kinds of things. You just never imagine it landing on your own doorstep though do you.

Op unless this person was really close to you I wouldn't worry about it I do understand as a
Related members off my family was accused of similar but rightly so found not quity

You mean indecent images of children?
They will now be a registered sex offender . If you have children you will as a minimum need to supervise any contact with him,

I have two of these in my family - except the convictions were for abuse of someone they were close to, not ‘just’ photos.

What I did was immediately go no contact with them both and make sure they never had any contact again with my dc. In one case, I also went NC with their partner, someone I was very close to, for supporting them and spreading lies about the child they abused.

It’s much more common than most people would imagine. We all have someone close to us who has done the same, but I’m grateful at least I know who they are. But it was a deal breaker for me. No contact immediately with them and anyone who is an apologist for them. You are the company you keep.

And I knew I couldn’t expect my dc to make sensible choices about the people in their lives, their online behaviour, etc if I was willing to keep an open door to someone like that. I had to model the expectations I had for my children.

No, this relative is very much guilty.

I’m not letting my children anywhere near them.

I’m just processing it to be honest, it’s been quite the shock.

OP you may find his sex offender manager from either police or probation will contact you to check you know about the conviction. They will notify social services who again will probably give you a call to give you safeguarding advice. Don't panic this is standard procedure.
And yes as PP said very common in society these days unfortunately.

You’re doing everything right. You can always speak to the NSPCC or even the Samaritans if you want to talk anonymously.