Yes, and he is still with the person he had the affair with. My dd is an adult and she has been part of her life for most of it.
Honestly it took much longer to move on than it should have because I allowed my anger to cloud my life. I focused so much on the unfairness of the situation that I was only existing in my life rather than living it. I felt she had literally stolen my life. All the experiences they were having with my dd should have been mine.
It wasn't until I reached acceptance and focused on what I wanted for me and dd that it started to improve. I had to stop myself thinking about what they were doing, what I felt we should have been doing. I also had to cut all ties with him other than dd. No friendly chats, no talking about each others lifes. Hello, yes no and goodbye. I never had a cleaner more organised house in my life because every time my thoughts went to them I would get up and do something. Other wise I would spiral into thinking of everything they had done round and round again.
I had counselling and took control over my own life. Instead of being miserable when dd was gone I made plans, socialised, studied. Went on our own holidays.
Dated somewhat then met my dh. We married and had more kids.
Honestly I wish I could go back and tell myself to never waste so much time, energy and emotions on someone who didn't deserve me in the first place.
Now I thank god he had an affair because I would have struggled to leave the relationship because I wanted a nuclear family and felt so guilty dd didn't have that.
But we have a great family unit, I have great friends, job, social life and a husband who is honestly the love of my life, is exactly who I needed and we met when I was ready. Any earlier and I would have passed the opportunity up because I was still too focused on what had been.
I use to write and get my thoughts out on paper. I was able to smile, nod and get by because I also decided I didn't want to give them power and control over me any more. My emotions and thoughts, when I felt I had lost so much already.
It's very hard, but I also decided I didn't want to be bitter and angry it was only affecting me. They didn't give a shit...