Abusive ex moved on and happy

[Feelinhurt]

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. I broke it off and he tried to win me back for half a year. Eventually he found someone else and moved on very quickly and happily. He told me he was punching with her (he never was with me apparently) and is taking her on holiday and after six months he said he was planning on marrying her. He was going to take her on an expensive holiday that he didn’t take me on.

Here I am, struggling to even find someone to go on a date with.

I feel so pathetic.

help?

Unless you have children together I would cut all contact with him.

I don’t speak to him
He’s blocked everywhere

OP, cut contact with him. Nothing he has to say has any value for you. Block all channels.

An abuser is most unlikely to change, so he may be talking up his new relationship, but he will repeat his behaviour. You have nothing to envy. Feel pity for his new woman. You know what she has coming.

As for finding someone new, taking your time is good. Making a careful choice is good. It's a new year. You are doing it right. 🙂

Trust me, most of what he is telling you is bollocks! He’s just trying to make you feel, bad, and it’s working!
You should be celebrating the fact that he’s gone!

Meadowfinch AllEars112232 💓 thank you for the positivity xx

My ex left me for a younger woman went on to have holidays abroad travleing to fantastic places fancy dinning etc.
Living the best he can.
BUT.....Behind closed doors.
I know what hes really like hes so far in her head she cant see nothing but him.
He now has 3 very small kids what he says goes she dose what she his told.
And she believes all his lies hes a compulsive lier and a control freak.
I could go on.

What i told myself was im free i dont have 3 kids under 8 i can do what i want now without asking first.
I can sleep without being ask for sex my past that has nothing to do with him being thrown in my face every day.
Im not on egg shells anymore.
No more drunken outburst he still drinks like a fish.
Not being blamed for cheating when it was him. Hes cheated 3 times so far on her she knows but he has so much control.
I see it more now im on the out side.
I stayed single 7 years now and wouldnt change it.
My son is an adult and flew the nest im now starting the new chapter of my life.
Plus holidays will be cheaper for me i dont have 3 kids to tag along with.
Give it time and you will heal and think WTF was wrong with me to be with him.
It gets better.

He is still deploying emotional abuse and he will no doubt do the same with her as he is showing he hasn't changed by telling you all this.

Comparison is the thief of joy. Do not dwell on him any longer

He's trying to continue the emotional abuse. Block him on everything and go NC with anyone who feels the need to tell you what he's up to. He's love bombing this new woman and will eventually start abusing her too.
You feeling small is what he wants. Have you had counselling? It helped me so much after being through similar.
You are free and you deserve a partner who makes you feel loved and valued all the time

So how do you know all of this?