I'm mid-30s, having biological children is unlikely because of a health issue. I am very open to adopting or fostering and considering donor eggs. There's no significant rush if I'm happy with these options, but if I want a biological child, my possible window is tiny and not terribly likely. I would have to derail my life somewhat to pursue it.
Ex was very handy but resentful about helping with anything and always made a song and dance about doing the smallest of things for anyone else. Would have made parenting things my responsibility even if we were both at work.
Current partner is kind and thoughtful but needs a certain amount of support themselves due to their own health. A chunk of parenting things will end up being my responsibility by default, even though we'd both be working. We have a strong connection. They would do what they could graciously, even if it might take them time to get into that frame of mind, having mainly had to worry about themselves before. They have already demonstrated they are capable of change and growth.
Instead of pursuing that option from a co-parenting perspective, I could look at a non-typical scenario and live apart from current partner or any future partner and handle any parenting independently. I realise prioritising romantic relationships is really hard when you have children, and I feel as okay as I can about that. If it has to go on the back burner, I get it. I have really started to see my own strength and capability recently.
I could try and start again in the hope of the fairytale person to co-parent with coming along, but I don't know if it's likely at this age, because I can't actually see this dynamic in the people around me! I want to try and be realistic but also not sell myself short. The set up I dreamed about with two equal biological parents doesn't seem that likely.
Any kind advice to offer here, or your own experiences to share?
Thanks :)