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I want to end it with my boyfriend but I’m pregnant.

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Anonymousmumtobe24 · 07/01/2024 03:59

I’m currently 39 weeks pregnant, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We got together very fast and I wasn’t expecting things to move as quick. When we first got together I was drinking and partying heavily as I’d just got out of a 8 year relationship (abusive) I wasn’t taking life too seriously. I wasn’t aware that my boyfriend was the way he is. He falls in love very fast and is very over baring, he tried to move in with me after a week and was telling people we were going to get married after a few months. Because of my mental health at the time I didn’t see what I see now I thought things were normal untill I sorted my self out. As soon as I realised I didn’t love him or even like him I tried to end it but he threatened to end his life. There are too many reasons to explain why I don’t want to be with him I can barely have a conversation with him because he is too much, too needy. The problem is he puts on a show for friends and family so no1 will be expecting this he is close with my family as he is pushy and invites himself over to my family’s houses. I had sex with him 9 months ago when I found out my Nan was dying I got drunk for the first time in months and it resulted in me getting pregnant. I am over the moon to be expecting as I never thought it would happen for me, I love my baby and I can’t wait to be a mum. I have my own home and a good job. But now I have to tell my boyfriend that I don’t want to be with him because I can’t be this unhappy around my child. I feel horrible and I am scared that he will try and end his life. Our relationship hasn’t been “normal” we don’t spend time together or have sex or anything I’ve tried to end it loads of times in the beginning but he said he would kill himself or he would threaten to put my private life all over social media, so I just stopped trying I started coming up with excuses not to see him. He thinks we don’t do anything together because im pregnant and haven’t had it easy even though I do things with friends and family. He pretends everything is fine he brings me flowers all the time tells me he loves me 200 times a day which makes me feel so guilty. He thinks everything is fine and we are going to be a family im dreading the upcoming months I don’t no how or what to do. He is too much I don’t love him he’s overly nice, he’s fake, he doesn’t have an opinion on anything just agrees with me. We’ve never even argued before. I can’t put it into words how unhappy I am. It’s not fair on either of us surely he knows something is wrong but doesn’t confront me. There is a lot I haven’t said my reasoning for not wanting to be with him because it’s hard to put into words but I’d really like any ideas or advice on how to go about this. Thank you for reading

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petalsandstars · 07/01/2024 20:47

Any mention of self harm or suicide from him is intended to bring you back into line. It’s highly doubtful that he would actually do anything to himself and if he did then the best thing for you to do is refer him straight to the relevant agencies ie ambulance service if you know where he is or police if you don’t. I’d imagine he would be highly embarrassed at them turning up at his door.

FatFemale · 07/01/2024 20:47

Why do people do that? Its taken so much for you to reach out to someone and they minimise your worries. Stay strong op. Do not allow him to move in/stay the night under any circumstances. Speak to womens aid and get their take on it all

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