Do you put up with friends that lie?

[porridgeisbae]

I had one friend that lied to me massively about a criminal charge she was facing (I like to think I learned from that for sure.) Not friends with her now for other reasons which was her choice. I didn't find out the extent of the lies until after we stopped being friends.

I never could put up with lies much, but now I find it even more difficult to hold my tongue if someone comes out with fake stuff. It's causing issues in another friendship.

How do you feel about friends that lie?

I’m at the point in my life where I don’t put up with any shit from anyone lol , it’s quite refreshing, I’m always polite and respectful to everyone I know and meet but they don’t get a second chance if they step on my toes if they intentionally try to hurt me for whatever reason…

they don’t get a second chance if they step on my toes if they intentionally try to hurt me for whatever reason

I don't think either of them were being deliberately hurtful; sometimes the lies are just to make a better story, make me feel sorrier for them (unnecessary) or even just for themselves, to give them more hope for the future/make them feel better about themselves.

But it's still annoying; with friend 1 I was very angry as she really deceived me on a big scale. With friend 2 she isn't succeeding lol

This.

It’s taken me a long while to get here, but I now have zero tolerance for shitty behaviour and immediately distance myself from liars, cheats, gossips, manipulators, negative Nelly’s, bitter/envious types, etc.

Positive vibes only. 🙂

I'd got to that point but then I became a Christian. So I can't tell people to f* off any more so much like I'd started to lol. Friend 1 I started answering back when she was being annoying and that's when she blocked me (she thought she was superior to me.)

Friend 2 is in hospital and dying of COPD, which is why I feel I have to hold my tongue more when she comes out with fake stuff. She's not allowed to eat ever again as her swallow reflex is so poor due to another health issue, she'd choke to death or aspirate the food and get pneumonia. She's being fed permanently through a tube but keeps saying they've said she can have whatever foods she wants and stuff when she gets home. Things like that. The things are kind of dangerous so at first I said she shouldn't do that as choking isn't a fun way to go. But she gets very angry if I say basic things she knows she shouldn't do or it would kill her. Her son is feeding her cake and biscuits.

This is interspersed with her old lies occasionally about her status in the history of paganism/witchcraft.

No. Lies is my biggest deal breaker in any relationship, romantic or friends. I might just about forgive a white lie done with good intentions but other than that, you look me in the face and lie, I’ll never trust you again.

Yeah maybe hurt is not the best word in your case, but any sort of drama and bullshit I’m done, it isn’t worth the hassle…. I know that can be quite difficult for some people to do and understand, but trust me you’ll get used to it and will feel so much better…

No i don't tolerate it. Theres a lot i can accept in people, but lying isn't one if them. I used to have a work friend that told stories that maybe had a grain of truth in them at one point but were so exaggerated to the point of being lies. It was tiresome and insulting tbh.

insulting tbh.

Yes, it's like they're taking you for a fool isn't it? And Friend #1 succeeded in making me believe all sorts.

No i don't , if i catch anyone out lying that's it with me , no 2nd chance.
I have no one in my life who i'm close to who i can't trust, i am careful who i associate with and intolerant of bullshit.