Advice needed. How do you reconcile 'being nice' when planning to leave?

[shortfatfatty]

Looking for some advice for a friend. Really. I'll keep it vague.

She is in a (so far as i know) non-physically abusive relationship with someone we'll call The Arsehole. Married, living abroad in his country, her full residency there is not completed, one child with autism towards higher needs end of spectrum. Was pressured to give up working due to needs of little one and TA's lack of help. Financial control is a factor.

She is very keen to be out and has a flight booked to visit family with dc in March. But, we need to get her through the next couple of months safely and without him being aware of any issues until then.

Please dear mners, can we get some advice on how to stay sane, not explode and make plans?

I would advise her to try and get out of the house as often as possible to limit contact with this man - going for a walk, going to the shops, getting a coffee, taking the children to visit a friend.
Anything that won’t arise his suspicion and will allow her some breathing room until she is able to leave safely.

When I was in a similar but different situation, I decided to enter a charity running event, that meant I needed to go out running A LOT in preparation. I hate running but even so it was worth it! Good luck to your friend.