Am I in the wrong or just being taken the piss out of?

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My partner and I have just had our 4th baby together - born 5 weeks ago.

We have 3 under 4 so it’s intense and an older boy. He’s out a lot for hobbies/gym etc and I’m getting fed up of it, am I fair to be feeling like this? The week looks like this..

Mon - Gym after work
Tues - Football training
Thurs - Gym
Sat - Football all day (12-5)
Sun - Football in the morning and possibly gym

He literally gets home from work, goes up for a bath then fucks off most nights to the gym. Doesn’t cook because he ‘can’t’ and honestly I’m just sick of it. I’ve signed up for a gym class one day a week and I hate now that he’ll think we’re equal as I’m doing something for myself for an hour - when in reality I could only dream of his free time.

Just feeling really resentful.

You have 4 children together. When did his behaviour change?

You know this is the after work life of a single man - you say partner and not husband - I’d question his commitment, but that’s not helping you in this moment! Very least you go 50% of the time he’s home after work - draw up a who does what to show him. Book him a cookery course and book an activity with the kids for him to take them to twice a week - you may ultimately be better off on your own unless he’s loaded and you are £££ better off until the children start school and are less dependent on you

I would be resentful too

He's certainly taking the piss and is behaving Iike a selfish arsehole.

Take the baby and leave the rest of the kids with him for the weekend. You need your own time too

When did he find the time to make so many babies, he's rarely at home and you are probably exhausted?

You say you're his partner; do you have equal access to the finances, is your name on the deeds of the house etc.

Or do you feel that if you tell him his behaviour is unacceptable, he will just tell you to leave and you'll have no money and no home?

I can't imagine why anyone would put up with this aside from maybe a fear of being homeless?

You have 4 children with this Prince?

I honestly don't think I could allow this.

We have equal free time in our relationship, yours needs to be the same - timetable it all out, highlight his in one colour and tell him you're getting the same and have another highlighter ready to start filling in..

Was he like this before you had children or has he started doing this since you had children.
Did he want four children ? Or did you ?

At the very least the gym evenings need to be after he puts the children to bed!

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Nope. Not OK. If you get one hour off for the Gym it does not equal his, what? 15 hours of sport. So he can do one.
Honestly why have another baby with this Dick ?
I'd tell him I didn't accept it. But it sounds like he doesn't give a toss about you or his children

It's not right. I'm a father of three, let alone four, and struggle to see how that's possible without refusing to do any child care at all.

I'm ALL for pursuing hobbies but really, it seems he's just living his own life while having a family as an elaborate accessory at home.

I had some form of class almost every night before I had children. That doesnt mean I thought life would not change at all once I had children, because Im not an idiot. Or selfish.

And it doesnt matter if he wanted rhe children, he made them and fhey are here now.

ZOMBIE

Ah so I see. Doh.

Just saw the date...

@TheBottomsOfMyTrousersAreRolled
I wasn't asking about your life, I was asking the OP about her situation.
Your life and situation is not relevant to me in this thread, I wanted to know her circumstances.

No, you were wanting to look for excuses for his shitty behaviour.