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Ghosted?

36 replies

EllaJ21 · 03/01/2024 21:16

I've been seeing a guy for over a year now and in recent months things have been on and off. However, we still spoke regularly and have been working things out - we live a couple of hours apart and have been working through a plan on that. Over the past few weeks he has started to suddenly go distant and I now haven't heard from him since boxing Day (he went to his family for Xmas and I went to mine). I've messaged and called him but have had no response. I'm really confused as he's never been like this before and I don't know what I've suddenly done wrong. We said before Xmas that we'd arrange to see each other the following week but nothing. I feel like I'm going a bit crazy overplaying everything in my head trying to find and answer and I'm worried that maybe he's just decided to ghost me but I have absolutely no idea why. I don't want to message him or call again as he clearly doesn't want to speak to me but I'm really upset about it. I really don't know what to do? I know I should probably take silence as an answer but it's really hard.

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Indifferentchickenwings · 06/01/2024 01:39

EllaJ21

what didimum says is great x

'I deserve more than ghosting. Your way of ending a relationship is cowardly and hurtful. I will not be responding to you in the future.'

EllaJ21 · 15/01/2026 16:31

Just an update on this. It’s been over TWO YEARS and today I received an apology message. Prior to this, nothing over the last two years. Nada. Radio silence. Good to know he’s alive I guess 🤷🏻‍♀️😂 Anyway, I don’t plan on responding but just thought it was a funny update.

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solice84 · 15/01/2026 16:38

Oooof . So he’s been dumped by whoever he ghosted you for . Yeah just ignore him , it will piss him off more than any response

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 15/01/2026 16:41

solice84 · 15/01/2026 16:38

Oooof . So he’s been dumped by whoever he ghosted you for . Yeah just ignore him , it will piss him off more than any response

Exactly this.

What a loser.

solice84 · 15/01/2026 17:27

What did he say? I bet it was some bullshit from ‘the script’ about his ‘mental health’ or some shite

EllaJ21 · 15/01/2026 17:35

“I don’t expect you to accept it but I’m so sorry”… that’s it. I think you’re right that he’s been dumped and wants attention.

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solice84 · 15/01/2026 17:37

Or you could just laugh emoji his message and then block him

EllaJ21 · 15/01/2026 17:38

The petty side of me was tempted to respond “ who is this?” 😂

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FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 15/01/2026 17:39

Don’t respond.

EllaJ21 · 15/01/2026 17:46

Yeah im definitely not responding. Not worth it.

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Whowhatwhere21 · 15/01/2026 18:43

EllaJ21 · 15/01/2026 17:38

The petty side of me was tempted to respond “ who is this?” 😂

I'm petty. I wouldn't be able to help myself 😂

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