In a few month’s time we are set to be going on holiday with my parents, sister and her family.
My sister treats me badly and is rude to my DH. She enjoys playing games and twisting situations until everyone is confused and is just generally very overtly manipulative and bullying. The whole family have allowed it for a very long time but recently come to realise. No idea why she is like it, she seems to always feel the victim and deep down I think she is unhappy and possibly struggling with self esteem but I find it hard to have any sympathy when she is behaving badly towards others. She has DC. Whenever someone (our parents, or me) does something she doesn’t like she will say it’s a privilege to know DN and that we won’t have anything to do with them until we can respect their parents, and apologise. The strange thing is from what I can tell nobody else is behaving badly, only she, but yet she pretends as if it’s everyone else who is manipulative - what?!
I’m not sure what I think to going away and sharing accommodation. I actually don’t want to go. I’m happy to forfeit our share. It makes me sad as it is tradition to go but she has been worse and worse the last couple of years so I hold no faith she will be any kinder this year. She doesn’t even have to like us, that’s fine - but she can’t even be civil and chooses to go out her way to be mean then play the who me card. It messes with me.
If we are in another country we can’t just drive home. I may feel trapped. I do want to go on this holiday though as it means a lot to my parents, but they also accept the way she is likely to behave and don’t like it either but each time seem to believe ‘she knows we are aware of it now, so she will change’
Aghhh. I’m stuck. What would you do if you were us?