Hi everyone, it’s been a long time since I’ve been on stately homes. But my goodness, what a relief! Like an oasis in the desert. I chanced on this section of Mumsnet after I had just had my very premature first baby and got PND (2015). I think it was because of my childhood of neglect and emotional abuse due to two immature parents and my narcissistic mother.
I cut my mum off for years to protect me and my kids (2DS at the time) cut off from 2015-2019. I have a supportive husband and now a two year old daughter (2021).
I stupidly got back in touch with my mum when we moved back to the U.K. from Europe. Saw her infrequently, stayed in touch over WhatsApp. But her overt abuse has become much worse since my sister had a baby two weeks ago. I’ve been in touch a lot with my DSis to support her. I called my sister to tell her that it’s become worse (sister had the same upbringing but I’d say more abuse and is totally cut off from it, but depressed, eating disorder, addict on and off). She said she doesn’t know what I’m talking about. My brother is a hermit sort of person, living with a woman who hits him a lot. He doesn’t talk to anyone really.
When I write it down, it brings some clarity but I have been waking up in the night terrified out of nowhere, like I’m being hunted. I spent a long time being ok (when I cut her off or didn’t see her much at all). Now it’s like I’ve gone back to square one.
I had so much therapy and brought lots of good things into my life in all those years since 2015, but it really makes me doubt myself and feel really doubtful of myself. Probably gaslit. Also doubtful of my ability to stay in touch with my innocent little nephew (sister’s baby).
somehow I think I should be the bigger soul who can talk to her and convince everyone. But I’m a bus mum of three young kids! Certainly my sister thinks I’m stupid.
Thanks for any support or advice. It’d be much appreciated. Thanks for still continuing to hold the flag for us survivors.