Unsure about meeting up with guy I used to date

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I was dating a guy which ended in March last year. It ended because he got his dream job abroad. He was a lovely guy, ended on very friendly terms so no issues there just bad timing I guess!

We hadn’t kept in touch but he messaged on Christmas Day to wish me a merry Christmas and to say he was back home for a few weeks visiting family and asked if I wanted to meet up to catch up and talk.

Part of me really wants to see him however I’ve had a spectacularly rough few months with a close bereavement which has really knocked my mental health. I just feel like I’m not and won’t be the person he remembers and that he wants to see. I’m on antidepressants now to try and function and I’ve put on about 2 stone since we last met and aside from that I’ve just totally lost the happy/funny/confident person I was back when he last saw me.

I’ve go no reason to think he’d be anything other than kind but I guess part of me is worried about being a disappointment and opening a can of worms that didn’t need to be opened so now I’m not sure what to do but obviously times running out to make that decision.

Any thoughts and opinions would be welcomed!

What have you got to lose?

Will you regret it if you don’t see him?

Would you regret it if you don’t meet him OP: I would say be guided by your gut instinct here

What is he expecting to happen, just a drink or is he hoping to spend the night with you? Only do what you're comfortable with, you don't want to be used just because your a good option while he's here, you don't need to please him, if it's just as friends meet up then go if you feel like it but knowing you probably won't be in much contact again.

If you're not up for it then don't go. It's OK to say no.