Not really sure what title to give this

[Cl2227]

After a few months of up and down with a guy I was seeing, I stuck to my guns and broke off the relationship the end of October. We tried to stay amicable (we dated for around 8 months) but he just wouldn’t leave me alone despite me telling him it was over etc. He still insisted on sending me Christmas presents but I have now blocked him on all fronts as it was getting too much. Purely out of the blue, I have now started seeing a guy which wasn’t planned and I certainly wasn’t looking for a new guy to date (although I had already moved on), I very much had the “whatever happens happens” mental attitude.

Since blocking him, he has sent me a letter saying he won’t contact again but I’m going to make the police aware (just in case). I opened it the other day but haven’t mentioned it to the guy I’m seeing as I wasn’t particularly phased by it.

I tend to overthink so my anxiety is telling me I’m “that girl who has jumped from one guy to the next” so I should be feeling bad etc that I’m now seeing a new guy - we’re getting on like a house on fire. I briefly mentioned to him that I was seeing someone before but it was toxic and left it at that as I don’t think it’s fair on him to talk about something which happened before we even started talking.

I guess I’m just after some reassurance / advice from anyone with life experience or who has been in a similar position before. I’m in two minds whether to explain all of this to the guy I’m now talking to as I have a tendency to over share and feel the need to be so honest about everything.

I would call the police on this ex. He clearly is making you feel unsafe and is harassing you. There not respect of your boundaries.

No one cares if you've moved on... I'm glad you have. Just look after yourself and don't let this bully destory your life.

Ignore your deep urge to tell all, yes you must be an over-sharer to even think that telling details is a good idea.
You don't know this new man well, it's a big mistake to spill negative details to an unknown, some men will become too willing to use the info to their own advantage and your detriment.
If, your ex does something in the future that impinges on your current relationship, then explain that bit at the time.
I've met men who have had some quite toxic descriptions to give early on - and it turned out they had issues. If someone tells me of past dysfunctional relationships, I take it as a red flag and avoid. You don't want to be giving red flags yourself and make him wonder about your part, or worse have it used against you. So telling all, serves no purpose.

I am 59 and have been amicably separated and divorced from my husband for 12 years, I have always put my children 1st but my new partner is very shy and awkward round people and It caused a really difficult experience last Christmas and in the end I finished with him but rekindled our relationship months later. He is financially stable as am I however my children find it difficult to be in his company. It caused a big row Christmas 22 and I broke up with him, but now after almost a year I have realised that I need him in my life. My children have both moved out but I fear for family events and Christmas etc. Any advice on how to cope with this would be appreciated.

Hello!
It might be better to start your own thread to get advice on your situation.

I hope everything will work out for the best for you and your family.

I wouldn't say anything to this new guy unless the previous one really ramps up the contact again, and you have to take evasive action or report him to the police or something.

@Cl2227
I don't have any advice really, but I think I agree with @Guavafish1 .

I hope everything will work out for you!

I definitely wouldn’t say anything to the new guy.
It’s never a good idea to tell men how badly another man had treated you.
Yes they may be all protective when you initially tell them, but long term you are letting them know how much you are prepared to tolerate from them also.