Dating/relationships overated?

[Lindacarter5]

What was your final decision on deciding to remain single and no longer bothering with dating?

My gut instinct tells me that I am happier and better off single because I don't enjoy dating at all.

Am not completely opposed to a relationship IF I met the right person but in all honesty I find people hard work and enjoy my solitude 99.9 % of the time. It would take someone really special for me to reconsider being single.

Not having met anyone suitable for a relationship when I was younger and the dating pool was much larger. The same applies to a number of my friends who’ve been single for awhile and just haven’t met anyone interested in a relationship with them in years.

I think just get out there and live your absolutely best life that challenges and stimulates you. Don't isolate yourself. Socialise with like-minded people. If that brings you into the path of a potential partner, great. If not, you're living your best life.

I feel really content with my own peace and I’ve got to stage where I don’t want that disturbed.

I tried OLD but it wasn’t an enjoyable experience for me. I just found it boring tbh.

I’ve got great friends, a good social life. I have nights out, weekends away and holidays several times a year. Apart from the physical side occasionally there’s absolutely nothing I miss or crave from a relationship.

I think your approach is the best one. Be open to a potential new relationship, but make searching your focus. Live life. Enjoy your own time, friends, whatever it is you enjoy doing. If love comes along, great. If not, equally great.

When people are focussed on finding someone, they are more likely to make bad decisions (any bf is better than none principle). It's like when you're buying under pressure on Christmas Eve - you end up choosing something that you wouldn't have chosen if you'd had more time and thought about it properly.

If it happens more organically, when you're in a place that you aren't too bothered either way, it's more likely to work out. And you're a more interesting person, and understand your wants and needs better, because you've spent plenty of time being YOU. You know your values and your worth. You don't see yourself through someone else's eyes.

And if you don't meet someone, well you don't mind because your life is good without anyway.