Help!! Tell me it gets easier

[alittlepixiedust]

Hey!
My husband left me (and my daughter) a month ago! He said he felt unhappy and wasn't sure he still loved me.
It is killing me!!
I miss him so much and want him to come home desperately. His staying at his parents 15 minutes up the road and all I want to do is get in the car and see him!! Over the last month we have probably seen him 6 times. We've not had an opportunity to talk but I keep getting upset and telling him I want him home which he doesn't respond and it's causing him to get the ump. I love him dearly and want my husband home. What can I do to stop myself from getting upset and missing him so much! We have been together 14 years and married almost 10. I don't want and can't let go. He really is the love of my life.
But I can't keep sitting here crying and getting upset.
Thanks for any advice!

Sorry your going through this, in time it will get better but for now take care off yourself and your daughter.

It's cruel for him to say he doesn't know if he loves you, hate to say this but could someone else as turned his head? Men don't usually leave without someone else in the picture.

This must be such a shock for you and he's evil for not sitting down and talking things truthfully with you.

Just take it one day at a time.

Usually there is someone else lurking, it’s textbook.

Don’t give this man anymore power. He has badly let down your daughter. Be angry on her behalf.

Grey rock him and it will get easier with time.

My STBXH said this. Moved in with parents. My friend followed him one evening straight to OWs House. I was devastated for months but now I'm relieved. My life is so much more peaceful. I deserve someone who loves me, and so do you. Cry and rage, write a journal, go for walks, read self help books, listen to podcasts. Slowly you will heal.

He says there isn't anyone else, he says he needs to work on himself. But there's no real communication about how or whether we have a chance of building our marriage back up. Every time I try and talk to him he shots me down.

I can't get angry. I've tried. I thought a month and I would start feeling anger, but all I feel is sadness and loneliness. I miss my best friend!!!

So sorry you are going through this OP. I understand it hurts viscerally. It will fade in time but is so much harder when there isn’t proper closure.
I suggest you take control and see a solicitor and investigate the steps you need to take for a no fault divorce. Then tell him that is what needs to happen if the marriage is over. The reality of divorce might lead him to engage in a proper conversation but either way you need to be in control.

Mine did this 18 months ago, started going out and completely ditched me, he did see our daughter quite a lot. I ended up back at my mums with my daughter while he moved into the new house we brought as I couldn’t face it! I was beside myself for around a month and then it got a little easier 2 months later he wanted to work it out even after telling me he didn’t love me to which I questioned and he replied ‘you know I always have’. I took him back and just before New Year’s Eve he’s done the same again! Don’t be a fool like me! I know it hurts but think of yourself and the children I know that’s what I will be doing this time around! If he wants to throw it all away then be my guest! You’ve got this. X