I'm going through a hard time and seeking therapy which is a whole seperate topic which isnt the focus of this thread but part of it. My husband has backed off from showing me any support. Because he can't be there for me emotionally i can't be the wife i once was whilst struggling with issues i am seeking therapy for. But i am civil with him and kind. This has been going for 8 months or so.
We have no intimacy although he would but because of his emotional unavailability i cant even think of sleeping with him.
That's just some context to where we are at.
In the past few weeks he's been saying I'm going out with the kids ( we have 2) he doesn't tell me where he's going but says I'll be back in a few hours. It makes me feel rubbish. He leaves me alone and if i ask to accompany he gets very angry with me and says he wants them to know dad can do things alone too. My kids want us both there but he rejects the idea and it breaks my heart. So instead i end up moping around at home until they're back.
When i speak to him about his emotinal unavailability he gets really angry. I've tried so many approaches but iv come to accept this man does not know how to be there for a woman. No reassurance, stubborn and a 1 track mind.
He's threatened that in the coming weekends he will be packing his bags and the kids bags and going to do overnight stays away from me. This really shatters me as he's taking my kids. Is this legally allowed?
He's said he's allowed but I'm not sure. He said he's priming the kids for our seperation and he wants them to be okay.
Any advice? We will be seperating and divorcing as i can no longer trust him to be there for me when I'm going through my own lows that were nothing to do with us. I keep hitting deadends. But can he walk away from me whilst we are married with the kids? I don't care if he leaves but not my kids.