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Is this ok or am I over reacting?

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Enid7 · 31/12/2023 19:45

sure I’m overthinking as I’m naturally an anxious person, but not sure if my husbands behaviour is ok or not, example tonight he wants me to do nye- I said I’m going to have a quiet one because was up all night with baby- baby is here tonight and breastfed and I’m not a nye drinking person, - this has annoyed him, he says things like I must want friends, it’s weird, he couldn’t live my life(just being with kids etc ) which I do totally get but I do get a bit hurt by stuff he says then he says I’m just being touchy? I also feel like he can be hard on our son, son has additional needs but oh constantly compares everything to what other people do/ are doing, - “how come other people can have this : do that” I’m not really sure I’m getting my point across, this is just one example just wanted to get other peoples thoughts ☺️thank you if you got this far x

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AttilaTheMeerkat · 31/12/2023 19:54

I do not like the sound of your husband at all. You do not seem to be at all treated well by him and besides he is not respecting your choice not to drink on NYE. Does he not care that you are breastfeeding?. Has this man ever done any night feeds with your youngest?.

How is this man also hard on your son?. Is your husband really someone you want to be raising your children with?. You should ask yourself that question.

With his attitude and comparing him unfavourably to neurotypical children he is really going to crush your sons self worth. It’s not a happy atmosphere conducive to raising children. Better to be alone too than to be badly accompanied.

hitherandhither · 31/12/2023 20:17

How much does your husband do looking after the children etc?

Is he still living as he was before kids, someone who comes and goes and parties without consider his family?

MistletoeandJd · 31/12/2023 20:27

He wants you all as perfect props =(

MistletoeandJd · 31/12/2023 20:30

I'm v similar to you tbh I have very very few friends 3 of our kids are an and oh just embraces that our family's experiences are very different to anyone else. He accepts that I have enough going on in life to worry about being socialy correct ect. It really sounds like hes a teen wanting to fit in with the cool crew.

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