Regular poster. I usually would speak to my bestie but don’t want to ruin her NY with my drama.
Bit of a complicated situation but essentially we are waiting for some paperwork from a family member related to the purchase of a house. family member is related to me and struggles with paperwork due to neurodiversity (although she defo has legal capacity). Another family member is therefore helping them.
I understand that it’s frustrating that they haven’t sorted the paperwork. But my partner has been majorly kicking off about it. He yelled at me that my family were stupid and the situation ridiculous. Also if she doesn’t do it that’s beyond my control. All I can do is encourage/ nudge her.
Over the last few days my partners behaviour has been beyond the pale. Shouting and yelling at me. He said some things about me and our relationship to cause me pain that he then said he didn’t mean it. Currently at a do for NY but feeling unhappy and shaky.
Forget the house, I’m questioning whether I want to continue the relationship- my view is that we’re at the start of a very stressful purchase - it’s a long road then there is moving in buying furniture etc. Plus dealing with the kids and cats etc.
He has also said that due to circumstances of our purchase, nothing will go wrong! I’ve said to him of course things can (and likely will) go wrong! It’s never straightforward. Property is a period property with everything that brings. Apparently this is me looking down on him because his opinion is correct.
WWYD? He suggested he go to a family members for a few days and calm down and I agreed (but he still hasn’t gone).