Taking off from DH tonight

[Rookiemama1]

I don’t know if this is the right place to post.

husband and I just had a massive argument. I have bad mental health and I need to get away from him. We have a 7 month old son and I’ve booked a hotel for myself and son to stay in tonight. I’ve left him a note saying we are away to a hotel and that my solicitor will be in touch regarding childcare and a divorce. We both said things we didn’t mean and it completely blew up.

i feel so broken but I also know he’ll he snarky and sarcastic if I go home and I’m genuinely concerned for my own mental well-being. Are there any legal implications for taking myself and the baby off for the night? We haven’t told him where just that I’m going to a hotel.

You’re allowed to spend a night in a hotel op. Unless there’s a reason why you’re not allowed to take care of the baby without him 🤷🏼‍♀️

No there’s nothing like that at all

Go the hotel tonight and then speak tomorrow or in a couple days once you've both calmed down. Goodluck

Without knowing the backstory:

Do you really mean to divorce him in the new year? Because if you know it’s just a night away to calm down, don’t tell him you’re getting divorced.

If you do mean to divorce him, crack on. I was in that position a year ago and it’s all done now.

Get some rest tonight

And start making plans

You'll get lots of good, sensible advice here

When you are saying your solicitor will be in touch surely you'll have to go home tomorrow and you'll see/speak to him then? Or do you have somewhere else you can go? Sorry you're going through this, especially with a 7 month old. But you can do it alone, it gets easier and so much better when you don't have to live with someone who makes your life harder.

If you haven’t left yet, I’d change your note to just say you are taking a night apart to cool off and you’ll speak tomorrow when you’re both rested, with fresh mind etc.

Reality is that I assume you will be going home tomorrow or at some point given that you have a 7 month old child together, and so even if you do want a divorce in the cold light of day, it’s not going to happen overnight so there’s not really anything to gain by the “you’ll be hearing from my solicitor about a divorce”.

Also, you can’t keep him away from his child indefinitely and he could call the police/ss if he has the same concerns about your mental health that you have yourself and you disappear with his child.